My 9yo daughter’s behaviour is absolutely insane. She’s rude, she’s callous, she has zero respect and treats everyone in our home like garbage. She refuses every instruction given and our toddler is slowly picking up these behaviours as well. It’s particularly bad at night, from around 6pm. We’ve tried confiscating her things, talking through what she’s feeling and how that’s affecting her behaviour, changing her bed time, removing privileges, time out, the whole nine yards. It’s affecting all of us and stopping my husband and I from spending time with each other and our other children. It doesn’t help that I’m a million weeks pregnant and ready to pop 😭 I don’t know what to do, I literally wake up every morning dreading what will come. What the hell can I do to fix this?! I feel like I’ve failed as a mother!
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It sounds like she is struggling, that would explain how each day she goes downhill until by 6 she is just done.
I would guess the pregnancy and toddler have a lot to do with it. Even at nine she needs support with things, I wonder if she’s pushed to be too independent because physically she can, but emotionally this is the outcome.
How is she at school?
Does she enjoy it? Have friends?
How does she sleep? What does she say makes her sad/angry? What would make her happier?