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Hi mums,
I’m in a predicament at work. It’s long…
I have a manager who treats me like I’m a child when he talks to me one on one. I’ve heard from others (from them directly, not along the grape vine) that this happens to them also. However I take things to heart and get very emotional when I shouldn’t. My question is, when does this behaviour become condescending?
Context: had a new employee with me and there was a last minute change in venue which caused me not to have my laptop charged to 100%. I took my charger with me, but with two tasks remaining my laptop died. I asked my colleague to power up her laptop so we could complete the task.
The next day I was asked about this and I explained that whilst I was home, this wasn’t an issue as I would have grabbed my charger however being in a cafe setting as the changed venue location, I couldn’t find a power point. I was told ‘you need to charge your laptop every morning’ .. yes I understand that, but you gave me 15 minutes to get to a new location as my new colleague didn’t want to meet me at home as originally planned.
Second context we have weekly KPI targets, as we deal with external clients, we are always working alongside someone else’s schedule. Today instead of 4 meetings I only had three. Yesterday I had 5, tomorrow I have 6. The goal is 20 meetings a week, which in total for this week I will end up with 21. But instead of looking at the bigger picture, I was told that everyone (name dropping Directors of the company) are disappointed in me and that it appears ‘I’m checking out’. I was then told ‘repeat back to me why I’m disappointed in you and your meeting numbers’
I’m trying to look at it from their point of view but I feel stuck due to my emotional side.
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Ew that’s gross. They’re micromanaging that whole charger thing is absolute bullshit and didn’t need to be mentioned. The second one is grotesque.
You can either put in complaints, or find a better job, or do both.
And you can take meeting notes and also can take a support person into a meeting. You can also ask for the meeting to be scheduled with time for you to arrange this. Get it all in writing and have him sign off on it.
And never be afraid to say, no I’m not comfortable saying/doing that’.
He is held accountable for what he says - he can’t just say he’s disappointed without pulling data that reflects it. And you’re saying the data shows you meet and exceed kpis.
I think if you start doing this, making sure every single thing is by the book, he will hate you but be forced to check himself around you.
You need to tell them you won’t tolerate being treated like this and walk out. Please find yourself a new job before you become sick over this. It’s not worth it. Who does he think he is? He is on a power trip! Don’t put up with it. Nothing is worth your mental and emotional state. Going to work dealing with this crap is not on. Find your happy place to work, where you don’t have to be subjected to this crap.
‘Repeat back to me why I’m disappointed in you and your meeting numbers’
That could not be more patronising. There are ways to discuss an employee's performance and that is not it!!!
Not only that though, hes also being unreasonable. Any fool with half a brain knows that KPIs fluctuate on a day to day basis. I work retail and some days my KPIs bottom out but then the next they go through the roof - that's why you look at weekly targets and you're actually exceeding your target. My manager would be praising us in this situation, not criticising us?!
The laptop thing was just petty as well, the work got done and you handled the last minute changes as best you could, what more can he ask!
The "correct" way to deal with this is probably going to HR but I'd be tempted to go straight to the directors and ask for some feedback about your performance because Mr Manager said specifically that they were unhappy about it.I tend to think they either haven't been given an accurate representation of your performance or your manager has completely bullshitted to you about the director's supposed disappointment. Hopefully it'd make him look like an ass one way or another 🤣
Then I'd hand in my notice, fuck them all lol.
Yeah that company is a total shitshow. Find yourself a new job and you'll realise just how shit that behaviour is.