I need advice. How you ladies handle when you've been in a relationship for 5 years have stepkids but the girls don't respect me they are almost 13 and 10. They treat me like I'm crap. I'm at my witends and my partner doesnt seem to have my back at all
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That would be why.
It his allowing them to disrespect you. This shows his lack of respect for you himself. There is only one way out of this & that is to end it. He’s allowed it for too long, it won’t change.
I hated my step parents. Dead set hated them. They were in my life from 2 and 5 and I was not ever allowed to be disrespectful. It didn't matter how nice they were at times... the fact was that I wanted my family to be together, not separated. I get along with my step parents really well now, but it didn't change until I was well into adulthood. You might need to be firm with your boundaries and consistent with your behaviour.... then accept that if their issue isn't about you as a person, you might need to wait for them to mature.
You don’t. You get your partner to respect you and they would follow. He is obviously ok with it. I would not tolerate this at all. I would have him live elsewhere with them.
I'd never be with a guy with kids . That's a deal breaker for me. I'm sorry some of you are in these situations.
Don’t call them your step kids. That’s a title you earn & they give you. They are your partners children. They should be doing the parenting/discipline
Don’t call them your step kids. That’s a title you earn & they give you. They are your partners children. They should be doing the parenting/discipline
After 5 years I would say you’re probably not. Given they are 10 & 13 you could try sitting them down and asking why they treat you badly and come up with a plan to try and get along. Keep it an open space and hear what they say. If you’re doing something they don’t like then hear it and work on it. If it is because their Mum doesn’t like you and their Dad seems to not respect you either then I would consider if it’s the right relationship for me. Their Dad will and should always pick them, but if you’re not feeling respected then you don’t have to stay in that situation.