Hi ladies,
So i have just had a look at my partner’s “about info” on facebook, and discovered a huge list of women in his “likes” and “follows”.
The list is full of HUNDREDS of almost naked women/ women in lingerie etc. and then checking things out further, i realised that probably most of his entire FB Likes/ follows/ pages are nearly naked women… mostly with huge boobs (which I don’t have).
It’s made me feel really uncomfortable and almost like I’m being cheated on…
I guess my question would be, do you think I’m overreacting to be upset? Is this is ok/ normal behaviour? Hundreds of women basically nude so frequently popping up every time he opens fb?
He is also a definite narcissist and we have many other issues because of that, so seeing this today feels a bit like a kick in the guts.
Please be kind
Thank you 🙏🏻
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Of course it's ok to be upset. Nobody else can tell you how to feel. I think it's disrespectful to have so many and it almost sounds like he has a bit of an addiction if he's followed hundreds of accounts. These accounts usually try and get them to go on their only fans page or send money for video, so I would guess that he is doing that. The fb pages are basically a tease and advertisement for whatever else they do.
I think you are not in a good relationship and you already know it but are still desperately trying to hold on anyway. It has nothing to do with you, not your boob size (but see the effect and how this makes you feel inadequate) or your reaction (again see how you question your own sanity) these are the most important things. You don’t have to catch him cheating for it to be time to give up and walk away.
And for the record, for me looking back, it was actually all of these little gross things that I put up with that should have been dealbreakers - those are the signs and no I would never stay again, once I caught wind a guy was carrying on like that. Good men just don’t.
You have every right to feel the way you do, but at the same time, all he's doing is having a perve, witch most people do, probably even you.
He may be on a diet, but it doesn't mean he can't look at the menu
I agree that everyone looks, but how many actually follow hundreds of near naked men or women on Facebook? Checking someone out in passing is one thing, deliberately searching out and following near naked people is something else entirely.
Firstly if he is a narc then that is your biggest problem. Secondly yes I wouldn’t put up with it. The combination of both things you mention would be enough for me to run! No thanks
That's just grotty. I wouldn't even demand he stop it. When a man shows himself truly, believe what you see.
Fuck that one off.
This amongst his narcissism and all the other issues - I really hope you know you don't have to tolerate any of it!
Relationships are not meant to be this hard or painful.
No you are not overreacting. To be honest it wouldn't bother me, but me and my husband have clear boundries based on what we are both comfortable with. Your boundries might look different to mine but they are non the less valid. The key is communicating that before it upsets you. If he gets defensive or disrespects boundries he is aware of then its a huge problem.
This is also my partner and to be completely honest it really bothers me. It actually makes me second guess myself. I’m an average size women (12-14) and i’m the biggest girl he has on social media. They say fake boobs aren’t what some men desire but from my own experiences my partner has openly told me he would love if I had fake boobs. I don’t have any advise but to me it’s starting to make me see him in a different light. 🤷🏼♀️ good luck beautiful just go with your gut as it never lies.