Have you ever seriously sat and thought to yourself, how the hell did I get here?
Whether it is a significant event that causes you to ask the question or just pondering in life... Like what the f*#K happened to get me to this point? I feel like I have wasted so much time and energy on people throughout my life, and nothing good ever happens to me in return. How is it fair. I seem to have the worst luck and it is honestly wearing me down fiercely. I feel like although I know a lot of people, I can't seem to count on anyone when I'm in need. It hurts. Kids are testing and I am grieving a relationship that I am still in and won't leave. How do you get up every day and keep going...
I guess I don't have a question, I just need to vent.
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Yeah, and you already know it's on you to bring about change.
The people that wasted my time and effort, long gone. You know they're sponges, they'll keep using you - so off they go.
The people you know, are not your people. Put that effort you're saving into finding new, genuine people. They are out there.
Relationship. Kill it. You know you have to.
What are the chances the kids are actually good kids but are feeding off all of this negativity and toxicity? They see how people treat you and think that's how you should be treated, how they should eventually be treated.
Not on your watch mama. Get out there and make good things happen.
I went though this just recently and the best thing I did was cut off the people that I was always there for, but they were never there for me when I needed them.
The relief I felt after I did this (and yes it was hard to do) was incredible! For 7 years I’ve been present when certain people I cared for needed me. Never missed a special event, moment or need in their lives but each and every single time I needed someone in return they couldn’t so much as reach out to me or support me in anyway. Always a millions reasons on why, usually ‘we know you like your space’ throwing the responsibility back to me without even asking if I need space or time.
Time to cut the ones that don’t value you, from your life and watch amazing things happen for you and your tiny humans ❤️
YES!!!!!! I had my "midlife crisis" at 30 & just went on a rampage. Dumped the idiot boyfriend, changed careers completely, cut off toxic *friends*.
Super hard, but the best thing I ever did. Life at 42 is amazing 😂😂
I think everyone does this at some point.
I think right this minute, maybe it's just hitting you, and you're sat there in victim mode going "why me?".
I genuinely hope that very soon, you'll just get angry and start to think "fuck this!!!" And that's when you will find your own strength to change things.
ONLY YOU can change things. Because people who have always taken advantage of you, always will, if you keep letting them.
I left that relationship. I was miserable and my kids needed a happy mum. It was like I learned to live again when I left him. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for.
However my happiness was short lived as I lost 4 family members within 5 years including my parents. I also lost my job with Covid. I feel this deep unwavering sadness at the moment. I know I am grieving. I also know that these were the people I would turn to.
I have to rely upon my own resilience to get by. I fight every day to find a way to smile for my kids. It does get easier but please do not waste your life in an unhappy relationship. Life is too short <3
I’m confused as to why you’re grieving a relationship you’re still in? How does that work?
I understand this completely. I grieved my relationship long before I left. By the time I left there was nothing left to hold me there. It was if the person I thought I loved never existed in the first place.
There's a saying somewhere about women grieving the relationship before they leave and men after.
Yes I understand that, just the part where it says she’s grieving a relationship she’s still in but won’t leave… why won’t she leave?