How did this happen? I mean I know how, but we were careful, I’m on contraception and haven’t missed it. We’ve only done the deed a handful of times (yes I know once is all it takes) and yet here we are, baby number three coming ten or eleven months after baby number two.
How do I tell my husband, our families, my eldest (who is only just adjusting to life with one sibling). The last pregnancy made me very sick with Preeclampsia and we ended up with an early induction so I didn’t get sicker. I swore we weren’t having another but termination isn’t an option at this time.
Has anyone done the Irish twin thing? How did you tell people? How did you tell your partner? How did you survive pregnancy with a baby (and a seven year old?)
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Firstly you have to stop thinking of others and what they think. I had mine close together and loved it. I also had pre eclampsia twice. They said it’s uncommon twice from the same father. You will be monitored closely and you know what to watch out for. Have a bbq and a gender reveal 😂 surprise everyone! stop thinking about others. Tell your husband and just enjoy the journey. You’ll be happy you did in a few years and when they start school, it’s the best!
It happened to me after my first. I was only 18 too so I felt all the judgment as I sat there staring at the stick all by myself in the toilet, it was bad enough the first time around. I kept the pregnancy a secret for as long as I could, until about 4 months, because I just didn't want to deal with the comments. To my surprise everyone was happier about the second one than they were about the first.
It was really hard chasing a toddler who was just starting to walk/run around while also trying to look after a newborn. Most feeds or changes were interrupted. Looking back now (22 years later) I would have made life easier and put my toddler in a portacot while feeding for everyone's safety and sanity. My milk dried up pretty quickly and the constant getting up and down was probably the cause. We were young and broke and it was a while ago so before all the wonderful gadgets and advice that's around today. I was using cloth nappies and making my own baby food and for a while hand washing everything after our machine broke. I wish I was able to take the easy way to make life a bit easier. I also ended up with gastro when baby number 2 was 9 months old and the pill I had been religiously taking was ineffective so guess what came along 9 months later...baby number three. 3 under 3 actually ended up being a little bit easier than the first 2 because my second was an early developer so by 18 months she was past the whole running off and getting into everything. Its all hard work when they're little but as they get older it will be a lot easier, you will go through the stages quickly and they will have an amazing bond being so close together.
I think you need to talk to your doctor to see if it’s safe for you to have another baby, especially having had pre-eclampsia so recently. Tell your hubby soon, you shouldn’t have to go through this alone. You need to make an informed decision, and ultimately it will be yours alone to make. Wishing you luck and love x
Tell hubby ASAP, you didn’t get preg alone. And if you care for your kids and don’t rely on everyone else, then stuff what they all think. Be as proud as you prob were last pregnancy. Good luck
Tell hubby ASAP, you didn’t get preg alone. And if you care for your kids and don’t rely on everyone else, then stuff what they all think. Be as proud as you prob were last pregnancy. Good luck