My best friend and I of 10 years+ have parted ways recently and I’m struggling to come to terms with it.
We always were in touch every single day, had so many things in common and just ‘got each other’.. it was a friendship I have longed for my whole life.
Then one day there was a huge misunderstanding. My bestie all of a sudden turned on me and unleashed a heap of hate. She tore me to shreds. Myself, my parenting, everything. I can’t come back from this. I didn’t say a single hurtful back and that gives me peace.. but how do I move on. Am I all those things she said I am.. or was I blind from the beginning and she wasn’t a real friend from the start. The loneliness is so hard, I don’t have many friends to begin with.
Losing a best friend
Losing a best friend
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Don’t take on what she said. I really think something didn’t go her way, just let her be. Just maybe all those years, you gave so much more to the friendship and she took it until you said it did something that she didn’t like. Let it go, she isn’t worth it. Yer it’s hurts and you grieve the friendship but if she has treated you like this, then it’s her loss and she doesn’t deserve you as a friend. Has she even apologised for what she said? I know when we get angry, we say things we don’t mean but it sounds nasty like she didn’t get her own way or something. I have left go of a few long term friends and it hurt a lot but at the same time, if I kept going with our friendship they would just keep taking from me and using me. After letting them go, I felt so much better. It was hard at first but they aren’t worth it.
Look within, you know yourself better than anyone else.
You know that quote about knowing yourself so well that other's opinions are irrelevent.
It really is true.
If someone insults me and I know it's completely untrue, I honestly don't care.
On another note, when people say something negative about me, that I know is true, I just think to myself, well yeah, I'm working on that.
At any given time, I could tell you all my strengths and weaknesses.
Take honest stock of what she said, there may be lies and a little truth in there, but if there is, remember, we are all a work in progress.
As I say to my kids, you aren't bad at maths, you're just currently having some difficulty with a concept, but with hard work and determination, you will get it.
Try joining some meetup groups to make some new friends, let this one go lovely x
I am still angry at my ex best friend but you know, after awhile, it just fizzles to a point where you don't care anymore. The anger is more frustration with yourself.
We all screw up at some point.