Hi mamas
I have shared care of my son, 50/50. My son is non verbal and 17 years old. (His father use to touch him inappropriately when he was younger) So I'm worried it's happening again.
He came home this week showing signs that he has been sexually abused by someone. (Trying to force me to do what some one did to him) and getting frustrated!!
My question is how do I approach this since he is non verbal. And who do I report it too!! It's concerning me that this person will get away with such behaviour due to my son's disability and unable to communicate!!!
Very sensitive about this so please be kind. I want to help my son and get him away from this behaviour as now he thinks it's normal and ok!! And that's not ok. So any advice and help is appreciated thank you ❤️.
Edit,. Yes I took his father to court over it when he was 12 years old. The court system failed us due to my son not being able provide a statement. And the courts believing his side.
I done everything to protect my son. But still needed to send him there. This is why I'm reaching out for help this time... So I do it right and get him away from his father.
15 Replies
Shared care with who? Please don’t say his father? You accused him of SA?
Shard care 50/50 with his father!!! And yes!!! I am accusing his father of sexual abuse/assault. Due to the past when my son was 12 years old I caught him abusing my son then the ex said "it's just a game". There is no game in touching your child's penis!. No matter the age. And now my son is showing signs it is happening again. So I am concerned that his father is inappropriately touching him again
But now did you allow him back in his care to do this again.? There is no way in hell that my child would be anywhere bear a filthy scum like this. You need to go and report this now.
Unfortunately court system sucks!!! And due too my son being non verbal they didn't do anything about it at 12 years old
Wow but he is old enough now you stop contact. Get him down to the police station and have his house and computer raided. Do not give this man warning. Please let them police search his computers and phone. He is one sick creep.
There is no way that he said he touched his 12 year olds penis as a game and was let off. And you said ‘used to be touched’ not ‘I saw this one incident’.
Definitely not a one time thing. Hence why he is an ex for. And yes!!! He had said it was a game. His words exactly!!! " It's just a f#cking game!!! Don't stress".
So you didn’t ever report it? How long have you sent your son there? Five years?? There’s a lot more to this story than the post originally says, it even says ‘someone’ but you’re making a direct accusation.
You protect him with your life and do not hand him over to anyone you suspect is doing this. He is vulnerable and the thought that anyone could use that as an opportunity to abuse him is just… I don’t even have words. I am a Disability Support Worker and this breaks my heart. Sorry this has happened and my goodness your poor son 😔
What the? How can this boy be back in the care of his father that so called touched him.!!! You need to take him to the police asap! Get down there now and report it. Get him to show them and stop all contact this with man now! How does he have access to your son!!
Ring brave hearts and ask for advice and take him to the police and get this reported. This is sickening. If you caught him last time. How has this happened again? protect your boy with everything you got Mumma. This might sound harsh but don’t let this evil man get away with this.
Police asap
You report it to the police like now!
Yes report this to the police and I’d also get child safety involved as an advocacy point.
Stop all contact in the future until this matter is fully investigated by both police and child safety.
I also DO understand that the court system fails children all the time, especially when their are no legal avenues that saw the parent abusing a child charged.
My ex has (so I found out) multiple allegations of child sexual abuse against prepubescent female children (substantiated by child safety, but never been prosecuted by the courts) and the family law system allow him unsupervised access to our sons.
He is 17 so maybe reach out to a local CASA or a children’s hospital forensic service. If you are in Victoria I’m happy to point you in the right direction