Going to my kids sporting games and training days makes me feel so awkward and sad. Everyone already knows everyone and they all talk together. They tend to be the “higher class” people, the ones whose kids go to private schools and the women all drive fancy cars and such. I’m the opposite. And I’ve never known how to talk to people like that out of fear of judgment and most of the time, really stupid stuff dribbles out of my mouth. I really wanted to do something to help out with their clubs this year to make friends etc, but I’m so scared. I always just sit in a corner looking like a loner. Help
Why am I so awkward? I want to fit in with my kids sports clubs.
Why am I so awkward? I want to fit in with my kids sports clubs.
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Just know that these people aren’t any different to you, you aren’t any less than them. It’s not what you see on the outside of them. They too would struggle in life with their own issues. What cars they drive or what schools their kids go to, is irrelevant. It doesn’t make them any better or any less. Don’t over think it. Just walk up and ask if they’d like any help and introduce yourself. Be open and honest and tell them, you don’t really know anyone but would like to offer your help if they ever need it. You are all equal, just always remember that. You have nothing to fear. Overthinking makes us build diff scenarios that won’t even happen. We pre judge because they have an expensive car or house. We have it in our heads that they must be better. They aren’t any different to you, me or anyone else. If they come across rude them stay away. If they accept your help just take it and go from there. Don’t ever think that you are less. Get out there and be involved. If they don’t like it that is their problem, just do what you want to do.
that sounds like social anxiety. You speak down on yourself so badly that you’re convinced you’re trash in their eyes before you’ve even arrived.
My kids go to private schools and I couldn't give two hoots where someone else sends their kids. I even know a few people who home school, it doesn't bother me at all whether they're kids go to state, private school or other. Chances are they probably don't care where your kids go to school. Just introduce yourself and go from there :)