Hi mummas, I have a 17year almost 18 old son very mature and responsible however how do you stop the anxiousness and worry when they go out with mates? I know I have raised a responsible and respectful young man but the worry and stress keeps me up until he comes home. Is he ok? Has he had an accident? Is he in a gutter somewhere? One punch can kill? It is more the worry of the a##holes and d***heads out there!! Help me stress less!!! I guess I never really understood my own parents worry until I had children of my own. How will I be when my daughter reaches 18 and wants to go out with friends!!!
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I would keep getting the message across very clearly. Sit them down and explain all your worries and fears. Tell them they are to ring you anytime to be picked up. I worry about this stuff now and mine are only 13 and 14. Iād rather me drop my kids off at that age than then go in cars with friends. Scares the hell out of me, especially phones in care also.
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Have a code word that they can text you any time, so you can then ring them and pretend to yell at them (or pretend there's a family emergency if they're too old for pretend punishment) and then go get them. They don't lose face in front of their friends.
And make sure they know they can call you pick them up any time, anywhere.
As to the worry - I'm 47 & my Mum tells me it never ends š