How to cope, when life is falling apart.
I am a single mother to three. And I feel as though I have been dished the worse life possible. That sounds terrible but I feel like nothing ever goes well. I’m struggling big time. And 99% of the time the only reason I’m alive is my kids.
I live rurally. I have no family or solid support here.
I have a teenager who’s suffering some very serious mental health issues. My house is actually on suicide watch and she has a safety plan in place. I have younger kids too who aren’t quiet sure about it all. It’s very hard dealing with this alone. I don’t want to seem selfish. But gosh it’s hard.
I haven’t had a solid job in two years cause I keep having to leave them, due to my daughters issues. She has ptsd from a sexual assualt. She has anxiety and panic attacks. I’m always having to get her from school and take her to doctors. (She is getting a lot of support from various resources) I do it cause I love her and will support her forever. And I remember how hard being a teen was.
I am struggling so bad financially. It’s hard living off job seeker. Things start to look up and I find a job I love but end up having to leave. I’m always here to support my kids, but so hard when your the only one who earns money and supports the kids. No fathers involved. I’m literally falling apart. I’m such a stubborn independent woman and I’d never ever admit to anyone. But I’m dying inside. I feel bad for my kids. This is the life I wanted for them. I feel like I’m never enough of a help to them. I never give them enough. My ex left me with nothing. I have no car. Behind on rent. (Luckily the real estate is supportive) I have nothing great in my life. I can’t have any time to myself which isn’t a priority at all. But I can’t leave my eldest alone at all. She can’t be left alone with the younger kids. I have no family close.
I don’t even know what I’m writing this. I just needed to vent to anyone. I appreciate you listening. But this isn’t living. :(
I haven’t gone into too much detail cause there is far too much to list. But being a single mother with no support is so hard!
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Can you move closer to family and have a fresh new start. Can you organise someone through a social worker to watch her so you can work. Even night shift? Is there a friend who can come and stay with her some nights.
maybe try and think of a job where you can work from home. Get her involved. Look at things together, that you could start from home.
So sad, I hope she can get through this and come out the other end stronger than ever. You are an amazing Mum standing by her side every step of the way.
We have recently come out of a 10 year stretch of my son having a very serious combo of diagnosis. One that left him unable to sleep for months at a time which led to psychosis.
There were times I really didn’t think either of us were going to make it.
We hung on in there though and things are looking up. They aren’t normal, but improving and we are making life work for us now.
Have you considered if you’d be elligible for a carers pension? Have you contacted the carer gateway for advice?
Is moving an option?
Are you in any Facebook or online support groups?
All these things helped me get through the rough times.
Now that things are more stable I’m working part time and have a more balanced life.
Hang in there!