Hi Sisterhood,
Over a year ago I decided to walk away from my narcissistic mother. Unfortunately that meant that I don't get to see my 2 younger siblings.
My mother recently contacted me saying that my siblings miss me.
So I guess my question is, can I have a sibling relationship with them and still not have my mum in my life? Or is she just saying this to get me back?
My life/mental health has been better since I stepped away.
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You’ll probably find it gets messy again. You could set the boundary with them, that you miss them too but they have to keep you separate from your mum. You’ll probably find, if they don’t have the issues you do, that they break this, but hey, if you miss them; why not try it. At least then, if it comes to no contact, you can know that you tried.
Keep the visits short and not at your home and don't talk about things that you don't want your Mum knowing. Keeping a relationship with them may help them, if she was toxic to you she's probably not the best parent for them either.
It might become messy again.
If they are minors, I think it'll be next to impossible to have a relationship with them without your mother.