This probably more of a rant than a question but I need to get it off my chest and here is the best place!
How is it that because my ex is a lazy piece of crap that refuses to work (always has been this way) only has to pay $17 PER FORTNIGHT of CS for 3 children and yet my current partner is made to pay over double this PER DAY for 2 children just because he's trying to make a life and actually wants to work?! It's like those that choose to work are being punished while those that are lazy get off scott free.
Here we are having to support 4 children (we've had one together who yes is calculated in the assessment) on our own and because he pays over half his yearly income in CS can only afford necessities, while his ex can afford to drive around in a $100,000 car because we're being screwed over by the government legislations while she's off living the high life taking his hard earned money aswell as getting supported by her new partner aswell.
How is this even fair?! How does the government not see this as an issue?!
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You chose to have kids with a loser, only the bio parents should be held legally responsible for financially supporting their kids.
If you partner is paying half his income in CS, there is a major problem with your payments and I suggest you follow-up with Centrelink.
Your current partner chose to have kids with this woman, again, only bio parents should be held legally responsible for financially supporting their kids. That is not her new partner's responsibility.
I guarantee your life would be worse off financially if you were with your ex who doesn't work.
If you can't afford to support your own bio kids financially, probably shouldn't have had a child together.
How do propose Government legislation be changed without making third parties financially responsible for children they didn't choose to have?
I also find it interesting that you say we are trying to support 4 kids (your 3 + 1 together), doesn't his two count?
Because you don't live with them, I guess they aren't on your radar of needing to support?
You actually have SIX kids to help support together, that's a lot, not many people are flush with cash if they have six kids together.
Have no idea with 5 why you would add to it.
Imagine they all lived with you.
Unfortunately both exes don't work, so you both made poor choices in partners and are paying the consequences.
I hope you work, otherwise your partner is supporting six kids practically alone.
No it isn't up to the Government to fix your life choices.
Its not fair at all. This is why I think cs should be a set amount, not based on earnings. If they can't afford to pay, the bill racks up so there's no incentive to not working or being dodgy with taxable income for sole traders. If I become unemployed I still have to pay for my kids needs, I don't know why it's different for the other parent.
How is it you made two kids with a man who never worked but thought he'd support them afterwards?
The child support levels show that for 2 kids it's 26% of your partner's income, which would be (slightly) lowered by having one with you and also by the time he has care. I suggest he needs a recalculation done.
If you're suggesting that your partner shouldn't have to pay so much because his ex is supported by her new partner, you do realise that you're also suggesting your ex shouldn't support you, because you have a new partner now.
Yes it's shit that your ex is a scumbag, but that's on him, not the govt.
Yep it's shit and not fair but it is what it is. My husband paid shitload of CS for 5 years until his ex asked us to have the kids full time, to add to the two we had together. And you know what, he hasn't received a cent of CS from her for 4 years now. Nothing. Nada. But you know what, we mentally had to move on as she was (still isn't) in the right mental state to do this. She has a toxic partner who isolated her from her kids, so our priority are the children. We both work and receive nothing from Centrelink apart from bare minimum childcare subsidy.
We keep our mouths shut for the sake of all the children, who are loved, cared for and treasured.
CS isn't fair. And sometimes it really bites. But don't waste your mental energy on a lost cause.
I'm confused. Did I miss something?
Where in the post has OP said she doesn't work? Why is everyone dribbling about Centrelink?
It's about child support or lack thereof right?
OP. Yes it sucks.
I'm of the opinion that you don't have more kids than you can provide for if you had to do it yourself. Assuming you won't get CS and not relying on the government (because pollies hold the power to change the goal posts at a whim).
Doesn't help now but might be something to bear in mind before deciding how many to have with the new fella.
You had children with a lazy man. Why did you think he’d suddenly start working when you split!?
Do you really begrudge your step children support for the life they were accustomed to before their parents split?
At some point we have to start looking at the consequences of our own decisions. It is not your partners ex’s fault you don’t get liveable child support of your ex. She isn’t the one you should resent here.
So what you're all saying is that no man should be made to support their own kids because he was like that when she met him and its her fault for having kids with him? So my ex shouldn't be paying $1100 a month to me because when we met at 16 he was a jobless stoner? Should I send it back because that's not the income he had when we had kids so he doesn't need to pay?
She said the whole time they were married (assuming an adult), he didn't work.
He wasn't 16 when she had not 1, not 2, but 3 kids with him.
Yes he should pay, but what does should have to do with it?
He won't and based on past behaviour, why be surprised?