I am coming up to 2 year post separation and feel ready to put myself back out there so to speak.... My question though is how as a single mum do you "date" without a sex drive? Tinder and the world of online dating seems to be so sexually based but I honestly have NO SEX DRIVE at all, the thought of being naked and intimate with someone makes my skin crawl and makes me feel physically sick.... I guess I'm more seeking companionship then something on a physical level.... Is this even possible? Or. I deluded to think I will be able to find someone to connect with on an emotional level without it being all just about sex....
In time and with the right person I'm sure my sex drive will come back, but at the moment it's certainly not what I'm looking for...
Is this something I have to possibly look to "fix" before I start dating again, or am I okay to just be how I am, as I am happy, just lonely at times
Is it possible to date without a sex drive?
Is it possible to date without a sex drive?
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I think its a sign that you're not ready to date yet. Theres no time limit on getting back out there. Concentrate on building existing friendships and making new ones to help with the loneliness and having good friends will help you navigate the dating world when you're ready. I was single for 4 years before I started dating and I think sex plays a big part, not only just for having fun but finding that spark with someone.
Look at meetup/friendship groups, I wouldn't like to date someone without an interest in sex.
I think it's an important part of a relationship and I'm sure most others feel that way.
If you are A-sexual, maybe put it on your dating profile, so only others who are the same will contact you.
Most people on dating apps are already in relationships so I'd avoid them any way.
I'm going to take a different approach then the other replies and not automatically assume that this is something that can or should be "fixed" have you heard of Asexual? It might be something worth looking into, a sex therapist could help you figure out either the course behind the lack of sex drive or whether it is something along the lines of Asexual and maybe you could look in those communities. There is many Asexual people who have healthy long term relationships without sex.
Read my comment, I said if you're Asexual, put it on your dating profile?!?
I didn't assume anything. Theres a big difference between asexual and low sex drive which can be caused by many different things which yeah, could kind of need "fixing" before getting into a new relationship, like stress. Why can't we learn to trust our bodies, if the body is saying "Don't touch me" then respect it and give it time.