My almost teenage son is out of control! I don’t know what to do anymore? He tells me he can do whatever he wants, he just pushes me out of the way and walks out of the house, he swears at me and calls me horrible names and he’s now punching me! He won’t talk to me about anything or tell me anything. He’s lying. He leaves the school grounds. What am I doing wrong? He was diagnosed with adhd a few years ago and is on medication but he’s only been this bad in the last couple of months. I don’t know what to do anymore? I’m lost and so heartbroken. I’m so scared for what his future is going to be like. I look at other mums with their nice well behaved children with so much envy! I must have stuffed up somewhere along the lines?! His dad and I are still together, but if his dad ever found out that he was hitting me, well, let’s just not go there!!
How can I help my out of control son?
How can I help my out of control son?
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6 Replies
Has he got in with the wrong crowd?
I think when it gets to the point of him hitting you, you need to hand the reigns over to someone else. In this case its Dad. Can you stay somewhere else for a while so the 2 of them are alone and it gives you a break?
Do not ever keep the fact he hits you a secret. You’re teaching him all the wrong things. I wonder if covering and hiding his bad behaviour is WHY he treats you this way. And what does dad do to deserve not being told about sons behaviour and issues? Sounds like huge problems to me, and. As you’re seeing, kids see the holes and run with it. Get on the same page with dad, no hiding, hold him accountable.
Kick him out until he can mature. This is not on! And when I say that, I mean to someone else who can help for a while.
If he hits you, call the police. They have specialised child protection officers that can intervene.
Child Safety also has a huge amount of info & programmes for parenting troubled teens, look into that.
And also, if Dad finds out he hits you and flogs him..... he deserves it. Sometimes that literally is the only thing that's going to get through 🤷♀️
And if he's only started this in the past couple of months, then I'd have to suggest drug use / shitty friend group.
If you are to scared to tell his dad about your son hitting you, then I am feeling like dad is the problem.
Is Dad quick to anger? Is dad abusive to you or son?
If my child was hurting me, their father would be the first person I told.as soon as it happened. Then we can handle it together as parents and partners.
If dad isn't abusive to either of you then he needs to know, so you can deal with this as a family. Not telling him and him finding out later will be so much worse for everyone