I'm feeling really disappointed today after yet another dating disaster. Why is this so hard to navigate in later life stages! I've been single for a long time and have a great life but I miss that romantic connection and would really like to meet somebody to enjoy life with. I met a guy who I thought was so great, we had a few dates, constant communication, very romantic and we got along so well. Then he vanishes, goes cold, one and two worded responses to my messages. I asked him straight up what was happening and he wants to see multiple women as he came out of a sexless marriage and feels like he missed out on all that dating stuff when he was younger. I kind of get where he's coming from, but to give me the cold shoulder so suddenly, it turns out he was seeing someone else and had chosen to put effort into her without letting me know. I feel crushed. I had hoped we could put time and effort in and he was reciprocating just as much. How are women expected to find new relationships when men treat them as disposable? I just hate this feeling and the disappointment of never finding someone who is content with getting off the multiple women wagon.
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Dating and even just finding friends is so shit nowadays. It's just constant ghosting or canceling plans. I suggest rescuing a bunch of cats to keep you company haha.
I don't think it's necessarily an age thing, I work with girls in their early 20s and the dating horror stories I've heard are phenomenal!
I feel like a big part of the problem is that people don't know how to communicate or more specifically, how to have uncomfortable conversations and that applies to people on both sides of the coin (because I have seen people take total transparency and polite rejection REALLY badly).
All you can do I guess is keep trying, unfortunately you probably will run into some more dicks along the way bit I'm sure there are genuine people still out there.