Nasty mother in law or am I over thinking?
My mother in law tends to put me down a lot.
I got my nose pierced and she said facial piercings are ugly.
I dyed my hair dark brown and she said it doesn't suit me.
I breastfed my son and she said breastfeeding was disgusting.
I could go on and on.
She's one of those women who speaks her mind, and don't you DARE do something that angers her.
She also likes to call me nasty things like d$%/head if I do something by accident, for example.
I think it's her personality type, but it's like she's always picking on me.
I don't get it.
Mother in law too much?
Mother in law too much?
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She thrives off being negative. I have a few people like that in my life and I will usually reply with sarcasm, "Yeah thanks, you look great too". Or "wow that's lovely of you to say". Then shrug it off. It's like nobody has ever taught these people 1: Basic manners , 2: To treat other people the same way they would expect to be treated and 3: Their opinion on other people is insignificant and doesn't need to be said out loud.
She says she's just being sarcastic, but she would never talk to her granddaughter or my partner that way.
Only me.
Sounds like there's an undercurrent of jealousy if she is only doing it to you. Just shrug it off and keep answering her with whateverrrr until it starts to annoy the shit out of her lol
Oh nah man, she's gotta go. Boundaries.
Hi ,
It sounds like you're mother has no respect for you or boundaries and that is not ok.
My advice after having one of those mils myself is to firstly talk to you're husband and make.sure you're on the same page about this. Yes , it is his mother, but that behaviour is not ok, especially in front of youre son. Hopefully he feels the same as you you. Then he needs to address his mother woth this amd make.her aware that it is not ok. I hope he feels the same that its not ok. Document matters as they come up . Good luck
No, I don't think she respects me at all.
She constantly compares me to her lazy, jobless partner who does absolutely nothing to contribute to her house, I forgot to mention that in my original post.
This offends me the most, as I do a lot for my partner and kids, even though I'm not currently working.
I just wish I knew WHY she treats me the way she does.
My partner doesn't think she's being mean, but MIL and him are thick as thieves, neither can do wrong in the others eyes.
Yes she does help us out a lot and I really appreciate all that she does.
But I'm never EVER mean to her.
Any opportunity she can, she will be mean.
She's never mean to my partner or the kids.
Only me.
I'll never be good enough for that woman.
I should also mention, my partner never hears her talk that way to me. It's only when we are alone.
I've also witnessed her saying nasty things about me to my stepdaughter