Help, I'm 44 and was told I was in menopause. I'm 6 weeks pregnant, I'm also a grandmother to 3, and one of my daughters has just told me she is 8 weeks pregnant. I have significant health risks. Including a 50/50 chance of uterine rupture, some of my health risks will definitely be life threatening. I'm a mess. My husband wants me to abort. I know this is for the great good. But I also work in this health area and never wanted to experience it. Also, people will know me.
How would I even cope having an abortion, then holding my new grandchild as we will be due as simlar times.
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Have you had a scan to confirm? You can have false positive tests during menopause. If its been confirmed you need to look at this with common sense not necessarily about how it is going to make you feel. You are high risk for serious complications, add to that your age, your kids ages and the next stage of life that you're in. Look at the whole picture and how much a baby is going to affect your life. It's not even about your age but about your stage of life, if all your kids are grown then a new baby is going to turn your lives upside down.
Who told you that were in menopause? Did they say you were perimenopausal if your periods are becoming irregular? Before becoming pregnant had you gone 12 months without a period?
you're only 44, no matter what they told me, i would be using protection.
reread your post, there are significant reasons why you shouldn't proceed with the pregnancy, don't feel guilty and find a place out of your area, no-one needs to know. all the best.
Hello I’m wondering what you decided to do ? I’m kinda in same situation I’m 40 was on HRT low does which was amazing and now pregnant - my partner and I were trying for last 3 years as he doesn’t have any but saw a fertility specialist who said it was very low change due to my AMH level and showing peri my other children will be 19 and 17 when baby born. How have you been ?