I've tried googling this but I'm not coming up with much.
My husband is in contruction/earth moving.
He is regularly bringing home crap from the job sites he works on.
Old fencing, bricks, furniture, piping, steel, firehose reels.... I could go on and on.
He doesn't use 90% of this stuff, it just gets dumped on the front yard and forgotten about.
Our home looks like a hoarders house.
Our neighbours must hate us because our yard probably attracts snakes.
How do I deal with this?
It's driving me insane
How to deal with a potential hoarder
How to deal with a potential hoarder
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Hoarding is usually a psychological issue. So usually will need psychological help. But if he doesn’t see a problem with what he is doing, it’s hard for them to want the help.
You will need to have in mind what your deal breaker line is
Most men (tradies or practical men) would be super jealous every time they drove past. Maybe find a way to store them if you're worried others might not like the clutter?
My best friend is a horder. The slightest mention of the issues causes her great anxiety, the thought of parting with any of it, not matter hoe useless, or unseen for years, sends her into full blown panic. Adding to her collection brings her great joy. It's like an addiction.
Does he show any unhealthy attachment to the stuff. Does the subject make him anxious? Has it started to move inside the home? Put your foot down. Tell him to clean his mess, or you will hire some one to remove it. Tell him you will walk out until it's done.