I just don't enjoy sex.
I used to have a high sex drive. I honestly wish I still did, as it's currently non existent. Maybe id enjoy it more then i do. My partner is always in the mood, and sadly, he only gets it maybe once a month, IF hes lucky. When we do, it all seems one sided. Lots of grabbing, hair pulling, bighting, no patients. Me being contorter into a pretzal. Just pounding. Don't get me wrong, I used to love ruff sex. But now, I want something more intimate. Im not as flexible as i ued to be. And when i direct him, he gets frustrated. I can't remember the last time I had the be "O" while having sex. He's not listening. I want to make it clear, I used to enjoy the way he likes it. I introduced him to ruff sex. He's not being abusive, he's just being ignorant of my likes and needs. I'm frustrated. And I feel my change in appetite may be the reason I have no sex drive. We're not on the same page
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have it more often and he will be less "enthusiastic".
it's like telling a person who hasn't eaten for a week to eat slowly, when they finally get some food.
But why should she have to give in so he gets his needs met? She has told him what she needs, but he’s not listening so her needs are not being met. If she’s not enthusiastically consenting, then it’s not consensual sex.
If the only way my partner engaged in sex was as you described it, I’d be bored out of my skull and uninterested.
People need a bit of variety and our needs and desires change over time. It sounds like he is stuck.