I met a person / mum friend who seemed nice on the surface, genuinely clicked, however all was not as it seemed, for some reason I felt an urge to Google this person, what I found was utterly horrific & unforgivable, they murdered their newborn baby & had gotten off scott free on mental health grounds. I do not feel comfortable continuing the friendship, I am so blindsided by the ability to lead 2 lives & some of the recent behavior is very questionable, how do I depart this friendship without saying what I discovered?
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I love learning from people like this, opens up my world of understanding. But I do have a pretty good understanding of mental illness and can separate the human from the illness. If she got off on mental health then she likely had psychosis which affects some people after having a baby. Her sentence started when she realised what she had done to her own child and probably won't stop until she dies. If you can't give someone with mental illness the understanding they deserve then it is best to walk away, just put some distance between you.
Agreed, I have experienced psychosis and the things you do/believe are next level and you have no control over it, the only thing that stops it is medication. The hardest part is you don't believe you're psychotic.
Thank god I never harmed anyone.
Was probably post partem psychosis, it's a shame no one in her life saw the signs before this horrific tragedy.
Not sure how she's currently living 2 lives.
Does she eat babies by night, be a normal mum by day?
Just fade out of her life. Don’t respond quickly to messages. If you see her in public be polite but closed off
Anyone found not guilty by reason of mental illness must have been in severe psychosis and had no insight of reality. They can't be blamed for actions that they were not in control of and that is why they're legally innocent and the defence is so rarely applied. Calling her a murderer is legally defaming her though.
By all means, distance yourself if you wish, but think carefully about what you say to others or it might be you in trouble with the law.
Look she probably was suffering from pyschosis at the time but I completely understand not wanting to be her friend. Fuck that!!! Everyone that’s justifying the mental health part can go be friends with her. You can either be honest or fade her out gradually.
I saw replies on FB all slamming the OP. Meanwhile, I'm like 'bye'!!
Having said that, my sister had drug induced psychosis and she was dangerous in that period of time. Once she was recovering in the facility, she was slowly coming out of it, but I have to say, the brain damage is real and life-long. Her unpredictable behaviour and her lows are real and something we have to dance around. A year ago she turned up on my doorstep. I was home alone with my 3 kids and I was scared because she was rambling and carrying on. I tried to keep our kitchen table between us and had the kids in one bed, at the far end of the house. My husband rushed home and he drove her back to the facility from where she came.