My husband and I have been together since we were 16 (20 years together). We were each others firsts. We have 3 teenagers together. Our sex life was great until after our youngest was born 11 years ago. In the last 2-3 years we may only have sex once a month to even every 3 months.
When we are intimate it may only be foreplay and that’s it. When we do actually have sex it just to get me to come as my husband doesn’t.
He is happy to just play and not actually have sex where as I like both but to actually get him to have sex is few and far between.
Our marriage is fine otherwise, he works hard for our family and even travels for his job.
I’m after advice to whether it gets better or do we need to see/talk to someone.
Thanks
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hmmm..doesn't want actual sex/orgasm, travels for work? i'm seeing some red flags here. could be someone else, could be hes lazy/finds masturbating easier, could be porn related, may just be has less testosterone and has lost drive....whatever the reason, time to get to the bottom of it. i would do some snooping if i were you.
If your husband can't have an orgasm, he needs to see a doctor, his testoserone levels may be down or something else going on that may be affecting his libido. have a discussion with him and tell him how you are feeling and that you want more spice between you both and that he may need to get things checked. If he is a good husband otherwise and you love eachother there has to be a solution to make you both happy.