I’d love to ask for those who have what most would consider an ‘alcoholic’ spouse, if it ever got better?
My partner can drink. When I say can drink, I mean in any social setting, if there is alcohol involved, you can count on him getting hammered - can’t remember things the next day hammered. We recently went to a baby shower and he was the only one that was intoxicated. There have been other situations where we will be at a friends house with other couples and he will be the only one drinking like his life depends on it when the rest of the group is taking it easy.
He drinks most days at work with lunch with his colleagues, a beer or two and then on the Friday night, hit the town drinking and then not remember the next day.
It’s getting to the point where I don’t want to deal with it or be around him. I don’t invite him to social gatherings with my friends anymore. It’s not fun, it’s not the relationship I ever imagined I’d be in. He said he would get better as we got older. He’s 37 and I don’t think it will.
I rarely drink and maybe I’m just being harsh?
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No. He's an alcoholic. It won't get better until he hits rock bottom & wants to change.
You need to ask yourself if it is something you can live with, or not. He'll promise to change when you try to leave. He won't. He'll hide it until he thinks you're staying he'll drink again. I've seen it so many times! My friend's husband was the worst. He's obsessed with boutique alcohol & stopped inviting us to BBQs etc as we don't have more than one drink, if at all. We're boring, apparently....
Alcoholism aside, imo there's not much more unattractive than an adult still thinking getting hammered is ok.