He doesn't know how to say sorry. In the decade we've been together, I can only remember one time he said it. Some times, he can really be emotionally manipulative. Mostly when he's stressed. It never works. I'm too strong willed. He knows he's wrong, he doesn't like being put on his place. But he never says sorry. Instead, his guilt comes through in his sleep. He practically sleeps on top of me. He has to be close. But when awake, he's too dam stubborn. I avoid conflict, so I simple give him the cold shoulder. I won't talk to him once iv had my say. there is no point. He won't admit he's wrong. I keep quiet because I know it hurts him. He pretends it doesn't. But it does. I tend to spend most of my time in my room, to avoid him.. I know this isn't healthy. In a few days he will act like nothing happened. But I'll continue to keep to myself.
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What are you wanting from this post? Validation that your emotional manipulation is negated because of his? I don't see a question.
Nothing changes, when nothing changes.
Also, a victim mentality is very unattractive.
What's keeping you there?
Afraid to be alone?
Dependent on him financially, so resent him for it?
Can't stand on your own two feet?
Too lazy to create the life you want?
When ppl are stressed out and lash out, it's not emotional manipulation, it's poor coping skills and emotional regulation. But you on the other hand are cool, calm and calculated to inflict the maximum emotional injury on your partner, now that's manipulative. You sound like a female narc or borderline and he sounds like a person being triggered constantly and in a state of angst, like most people married to disordered creatures like you. The crazy one who reacts emotionally is usually actually the normal one, not seeing the evil in front of them, trying to keep them unbalanced.
You aren't stronger than him, you're just colder and full of hate and like to hold a grudge and always think you're right. He wants a marriage, you want a war zone, if he doesn't bow down to you.