I'm not sure what I'm hoping to achieve by posting this. I think I just need to get it out.
I am so lonely. I have my 2 children, but otherwise I feel like I have no one. I will be spending Christmas morning with the kids, then they will be going to their dads. I have no one to visit. No one to talk to. I struggle to make friends or connections as I get so anxious. Everyone I get close to someone we just drift away - there's never any reason, just normal life distractions. I try and keep in touch, but I don't want to be too much so I just let things drop off.
I am so ready to just give up, but my kids keep me going. They would be so heartbroken. I have seen a psychologist but it wasn't much help and wasn't able to afford to keep going. And I mean, it's not going to fix how alone I am.
I just want to be important enough to someone that they actually care about me enough to check in 💔💔
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Hello beautiful mumma 🥰 Kelly here from The Imperfect Mum team. I see you. I hear you. And at times I feel how you feel too.Â
Have scheduled your question for this afternoon and I hope a few mums reach out and relate. Inbox us on FB if you needÂ
sending lots of loveÂ
xKellyÂ
Hello! I'm a single mum too and this Christmas will be the first time in 18 years I have none of them. I'll just be home, on my own binging movies as if it's any other day. Please reach out if you need a friend! I'm kind, I'm a social worker and I won't disappear 🙂 I spend my whole life - literally! - pleasing others.
Are you on any local Facebook pages?
A few people in our local group have put up post inviting people that are alone or are celebrating alone to join them at a local park.
That may be an option for you
I am the original poster.
I have read all the comments and appreciate everyone's support so much, especially the offers to join in, but I'd feel too awkward to take anyone up on it.
To answer a few things that I've seen in different comments:
I currently volunteer for SES. I thought this would help me feel needed, meet new people and gain new skills. It has put me way out of my comfort zone, but I'm hoping eventually it will help.
I am aware of the mental health plan from my GP. I have already used it, plus extra sessions. The sessions weren't completely free, but the plan meant I could bulk bill most of the cost.
I would love to just go along to events that people have put on fb for Christmas or clubs etc, but I honestly can't do it. Also, I'm not joining a church - 'god' isn't really my thing sorry.