I sometimes cry in my car all the way to work when I think of all the things he’s put me through over the years. Certain things just trigger memories. He’s ruined every single bit of my life. My happiness, my parenting journey, my social life, my mental health, my looks. Just everything, including our kid’s childhood. I often think about how amazing I always wanted my life to be, but he’s ruined everything. Sorry, not a question, I just don’t have anywhere else to vent.
He’s so happy, and his life is on a silver platter.
It’s not fair.
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Aww Hun, you deserve so much better than this and it's never too late!
I let mine take 14 years of my life, some people get less time in jail for horrible crimes. All I did was chose the wrong man!
Mine was a cheating, lying, manipulative jerk who everyone else liked because they did not have to live with him and yeah, narcissists are great pretenders.
I left him and struggled financially but my goodness my kids and I were soo much happier in the long run. I finally felt free and regained my youth, without his baggage weighing me down.
After a few years I met someone new which I vowed I would not do because I did not want to give up my happiness again. 7 years later and we are still going and I'm still happy. He has proven again and again that my ex was just a jerk.
Don't stay with a parasite. They suck the life and happiness out of everything. You've got this x
Had the same thoughts about my ex years ago, but now my life is amazing and he is still a piece of shit.... its all perspective. You'll get your happiness , you just have to positive and look ahead, good things will come and your ex will still be a piece of shit!
This is my life, 100%. I went from fit, healthy, happy, successfully getting through a nursing degree whilst being a single mum to two kids and working a part time job. We were busy, but thriving and happy. Met, who I thought was an amazing guy and its been misery ever since. Narcism, gas lighting, domestic abuse and cheating. Worst part is we separated in the middle of a rental crisis and covid (after I caught him chatting to multiple women online), continued to live together (separated under the same roof). Now I can't get rid of him. He rarely pays rent, continues to be hard to live with/mean/abusive. I'm now very low in self esteem, overweight, depressed, and have no idea how to get this guy out of my life! Meanwhile, he spends his days on dating apps (but would never allow me to move on), is a constant cause of negativity in the house, drinks excessively daily, and we all feel like we're walking on egg shells around him. It's misery, pure misery.