I am at my wits end! I literally just want my husband to SEE me and want to spend time with me! He will spend his Fri/Sat arvo & nights chatting with mates on the phone which I do not want to quash. But when I say I want time for just US, he makes excuses and says shit like I spend time sitting on the couch doing nothing etc!!! Which infuriated me as I do EVERYTHING for this household!!
I guess I’m just looking for some advice or people who can resonate ♥️
How do I solve things with my husband
How do I solve things with my husband
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Organise things. Make a dinner reservation, book something to do as a family, plan a weekend away. If you make additional effort and he knows why you are making additional effort and specifically blocks your attempts, I'd stop doing everything for him until he realised that feeling appreciated is important. I'd be open about what I was doing and not expecting him to mind read though. Long-term if I never felt like a priority I would leave
I could not handle a man who made his friends a priority every weekend. That is completely unfair on you! It sounds to me like the only reason you are sitting on the couch is in hope that he finally chooses to spend time with you. I would stop waiting. It's time to make yourself a priority and arrange something with your friends who recognise your worth! This ahole expects you to keep waiting for him. Probably has a huge ego to boot. Stuff him! Once he sees you starting to shine and spending time out with friends I bet he changes his tune!!! He may even do this as soon as you arrange something without him. Stop making him a priority and make sure you follow through on having fun without him. Eventually you may even realise how little you need him if he doesn't want to wake up! <3