I'm just wondering if I'm just being silly. I lost my dad last week and it's been a hard few days and I text my friend the day it happened, and she said she'd be there for me. On Monday I dropped my daughter to school and saw my friend and I know she saw me coming but she totally ignored me! Then after school again saw I was coming and quickly took off. How do I deal with that?? I know she doesn't cope well with high emotion situations but I mean my father died I don't have leprosy! I just feel quite hurt and I thought we were closer than that...
Is it fair I'm feeling hurt by her right now even though I know she doesn't do well in these sort of things? (She didn't know my dad so she's not grieving for him too)
Friends support after loss of my father
Friends support after loss of my father
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When I lost my father I felt quite hurt by some of my friends keeping their distance but TBH I found it more difficult to deal with people who I didn't get along with sucking up to me.. For years afterwards I found it exremely difficult to be around my friends when they lost someone, it was like constant flashbacks to my dads death and funeral, so I started understanding how those people were standoffish from me.. It took a while but through many conversations I have learnt a lot of people, especially people who have never experienced loss, actually have no idea what to do in the situation.. Everyone handles it different, there is no right way and maybe she thinks that by giving you space she's not constantly reminding you of your loss?? I would text her and say that you would really love some company/ go for a coffee to get your mind off things?? If she still ignores you I would just start distancing yourself from her and find some friends that will actually support you. I'm so sorry for your loss, sending lots of hugs your way xxxx