Where to start is the question?
I am also sorry for the long post.
My brother is married and has 5 children. The eldest son has a disability, then there is their daughter who is a couple of months off being 18, Then another son 2years younger then a another daughter and another son. They are also half way along with number 6 on the way.
The youngest daughter started coming to me telling me that she was being picked on about her weight from her parents and also the younger brother picking on her and they don't stop him. They have even told her to move out. She also told me that the oldest son with the disability gets yelled at all the time and hit told that they hate him and wished he was gone. The Boy tells the parents he wishes he was dead so he didn't have to put up with it all the time. The daughter just wants to run away but is to scared because she has witnessed the older sister been punched from her father.
The mother doesn't let the kids out of her sight. If they want to hang out with friends they aren't aloud to but if she finally lets them she messages them all the time telling them they all miss them and needed their help. But then the mother tells me that the kids never want to hang out with friends and that the kids wont stop messaging her while they aren't with her.
The eldest girl has just started dating this guy who the parents hate for no reason. They hardly let her see him and when they do they secretly follow them around to see what they are doing. My brother cant tell me why they dislike the boyfriend as I have asked. Our mother has spoken to them about them not liking the boyfriend as the daughter went to her crying about it and he told mum to stay out of it. The bf isn't aloud at there house not even to pick her up.
There is A LOT more but its to much to write here.
Please give me advice on what I can do?
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Not your circus, not your monkeys. I'd stay out of that one. Unless you are genuinely concerned report them to dhs. Be there for the kids but other than that stay out of it.
Seriously? They are punching their kids in the face! Hitting a disabled child and the reply you give is "not your circus..."
Please op report them! Get as much proof as you can! No one should have to put up with living this way!
It sounds like there is a lot of controlling and emotional abuse going on here. I think the best thing you can do is be a trustworthy reliable ear for the kids and encourage them to talk to you, hopefully the older ones can move out soon. The younger one being called fat well I think you just have to be positive with her, give her love and affection. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse, don't just ignore it. I have no other ideas for you though, sorry, don't give up, these kids need you.