Infertility....why must it be so bloody hard....my beautiful partner and I hav been TTC for 24 months....we succeeded for it only to end in a eptopic pregnancy needless to say it has broken me as a person we already have one child and it breaks both our heart we cannot complete our family its bought everything we want to do to a complete stand still our child is foreva walking around asking for a brother or sister he doesn't mind he just wants one like mum and dad.... anyway its making me a very very bitter person I cant even look at a pregnant lady dont get me wrong I think couples that are stable and willing to make and look after a family is a beautiful thing what is really really starting to piss me off is seeing teenage girls that cant even look after them self having babys left right and center and fucking complaining about choices they have made no partner no stable income in situationships not even a house of there own an there part time partners complete fucking idiots I just wanna punch these girls in the head because they will never actually understand what a gift they have been given I dont even really know what im asking I guess does it get easier does the bitterness go away I hate being like this I loved baby bumps now I cant stand to even look at them ill literally walk thru fire to avoid a pregos lady.....
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I think it's time to go to get some counselling. Sadly I think you've tipped over the edge. I'm really sorry you are going through this.
Have you had a second opinion? A friend had tried IVF for 11 years with many miscarriages. Eventually they sought another opinion from a dr in Sydney and after simple blood tests and scans, he was able to determine the exact cause of the problem. They then did IVF with him and he did what he had to (give her a single injection once the eggs were implanted) and she was able to keep the pregnancy. She had just had a baby boy.
Sometimes another set of eyes can make a difference.
I understand this will not happen for everyone and I do completely understand what you are going through (personally going through similar) however, may there always be hope.
Big hugs to you.
I think you should get counselling, I'm a young mum myself and I've had two miscarriages and have just been diagnosed with secondary infertility after 13 months of trying. I hated all pregnant women when I was going through my miscarriages too. I hate seeing women who smoke and drink while pregnant, it makes me so angry. I think you really need to talk to somebody about it though, it's not healthy and you need to change your mindset otherwise it is going to spill into other areas of your life where you were previously happy. Good luck and I'm sorry you're going through this.
Hugs to you. Trying for babies can be the most heartbreaking and unfair thing in the world. It sounds like you need to take a break from trying for a while and (mentally) focus on the fact you have already been blessed with 1 beautiful child, down the track you may very well be blessed with another. In the mean time try to focus on what u do have. It's worth considering some counselling to help you through these emotions
I think you're the one that needs to be smacked in the head. I was 16 and pregnant, fast forward 6 years and my husband and I both have high income careers, a house and a car. Most teenage mums turn out to be great parents, don't take your jeolousy out on us!
This comment is disgusting even more hurtful then the posters I regards to teen mums
You are just a rude bitch mate. i higly doupt the poster was talking about people who have there shit together in regards to teenage mums. u sound like a self centered fuck head how could u say somthing like that and direct it at a person that was clearly not directing shit at u she is in a dark place u clearly have never been because the sun shines so bright out of ur perfect arse!!!!!!!
I can't believe how many people missed the point of this post. Big hugs to you mumma. Your definitely grieving and everyone process things in their own way. I've watched my best friend struggle through many miscarriages and after neary 8 yrs still no baby, its heart breaking as a friend I can't imagine the pain she feels.
I also hate watching those mums no matter how old who neglect their kids and mistreat their pregnancies. It makes me so mad that they get the gift that others long for.
I have no real words of comfort for you but please ignore all the haters who took your post to heart. They clearly have no concept of venting or human kindness. Big hugs xx
I think you need to be greatful for what you have. I have been trying for 7 years without any luck at all not even the chance to carry a child! Remind yourself of how lucky you are you have one healthy child and focus your time i enjoying life. When you stop trying so hard and being angry at the world you will have a better chance. I hurt every day looking at baby bumps baby clothes all my friends on to their 2nd and 3rd bubs. I'm not angry at them what will be will be and although I want nothing more in this world to be a mother I just remind my self that there is always some out there worse off then me.
I've just been on a similar journey and feel your bitterness. It hurts like hell I know. I did 5 ivf's only to have a m/c, then thank goodness got preg and had my daughter. We then tried for a second, desperate for our daughter not to be an only child. We again did ivf, I had 2 x surgery and had my tubes removed without my approval so we were stuck with ivf. I am now expecting my 2nd baby in April. I'll never forget the awful journey and it breaks my heart to hear of others going through similar. However, trust me, your feelings and negative thoughts are completely normal, however irrational. Please seek counselling. Not with any regular counsellor but with someone who specialises in fertility issues. I never did whilst trying for our first but believed I owed it to my daughter to look after my mental health second time around. I was lucky and was able to access a counsellor through the ivf company. If you're not doing ivf maybe call some ivf places anyway and see if they can recommend someone in the right field. It helped so much. Just having a professional who understood and could validate my feelings. Maybe find a support group as well. People who've never been through something like this don't get it and never will, however hard they try. You need to talk to people who understand your journey. You wouldn't believe how many people are hiding away too ashamed to talk about fertility problems. Once I told a few people, everyone seemed to come out of their closet...it's more common than you'd believe. I've made the most beautiful friends from having ivf conversations and it's a great support to be able to talk to people who know how you're feeling. One last thing, don't try and get help from forums like this, too many people will want to judge you and take offence from your post. You don't need negative feedback. Not everyone understands and you don't need to hear their opinion. Please please please seek professional support or this will eat away at you. And please believe that what you are feeling is completely normal, it's just too painful to do so alone. You are dealing with trauma on a daily basis and have no control over the feelings this creates.
I hope things get better for you and I hope you get the healthy pregnancy and baby you're wishing for.
Feeling everything you have written. Sprinkling you with baby vibes. xx