I have to leave my toddler over night for the first time with his father and I am really worried I have never left him he is 2 1/2 We co-sleep and still breastfeed. I know lots of mums have no problem with this but please don't judge my parenting I'm not going to judge you... that's why we are here. My son is my world to me he really is my everything I know how lucky I am to have him. My feeling when I think of leaving him is Im the only one who knows how to take care of him I'll be worried about him the whole time. I guess I have never thought anyone can take care of him properly. I think at least it will be his father. I really feel protective of my son like he is my cub. I didn't have a great up bringing I wanted be the opposite of my parents I wanted to be warm, show love, be fun be protective and have all the time in the world for my children because they will be my number one. My heart broke after my first child passed away these feelings became stronger... I probably have some type of anxiety but please tell me.. How do I do this?
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I'm normally all 'get over yourself' with parents frightened of leaving there kiddies. But then I read you lost a child. Of course you are frightened to leave your 2.5 year old. I would be too, if I'd been through what you have and I leave mine every chance I get!
The only advice I can give you is work your way up to it. Start prepping for it now by taking baby steps. Maybe sleep in a different bed tonight so you can see how his father goes.
Despite what we like to think besides having a womb and boobs men can do this very very well. In fact I have a couple of male friends who are SAHD and they are AMAZING. So give your partner a chance to show you what he can do.
I know you'll be scared but you can get through this.
I felt the same way leaving my girl overnight for the first time - it was soooo hard! You don't mention whether you and the father are together? Does your son have a God relationship with his dad? Do you trust his dad to look after him well?
The night I left my girl for the first time was hard, but she adores her daddy and had a ball with him! Barely noticed I was gone. I left a couple of bottles of EBM for overnight and she did wake a couple of times but was happy to drink and go back to sleep. I understand the anxiety, I do, but I bet your boy will think it's an adventure!