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Hey everyone,
I'd like to thank you all for you replies to my post about birth choices. I did more pregnancy tests and even got a digital one which showed me as being 1-2 weeks along. My husband and I were pretty excited about baby number 6 being a massive surprise we thought we'd make the most of it, thinking of names and deciding to wait until bubs is born to find out the sex.
For the passed 6 days I have been bleeding firstly a light clean pinkish colour and as the days go on more pain and the colour has darkened but stil fairly light.
I am pretty sure I have lost the baby now and I didn't think I would be so attached or emotional about something I have no control over. My guilt at not being able to keep my baby safe is really bothering me because I know it's irrational.
My biggest question and most important is: How do I help my husband heal? He is trying not to feel the loss and I think he blames me in some way or even himself.
Please try to be sensitive in your comments :)
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Even tho you have had a lot of bleeding ect you should go and see your dr and get an ultrasound my mum had this with my brother her dr talked her into having an ultrasound and he was still their. The bleeding was from the placenta and not a miscarriage. I don't mean to get your hopes up but knowing for sure yes or no will help with the healing process.
I would see the doc. I had the worst period of my life just before I found out I was pregnant, I would have been 2 weeks at the time, little miss just turned 2. If I had of known I was pregnant I would have been adamant that I had lost it. I think better to double check with gp so you know for sure. Good luck mumma x
The bleeding is out of your control. Don't think that this is something you or your husband have brought on yourself. A lot of miscarriages were never confirmed pregnancies it just makes it hard knowing you were/are pregnant. I recently went to 10 weeks but apparently my baby didn't make it past 6wks. I have been devastated as it was our last chance to have a baby. It has been hard on my husband. He doesn't want to go through the pain of high hopes and then seeing me suffer in silence for 2 wks of bleeding before being flown out for a d & c.
I am still seeing a counsellor about it. I think you should see your Dr first and organise an ultrasound to see if it is a definite confirmed pregnancy or miscarriage. You should take your husband and let him hear first hand from the Dr's and or nurses that you see to hear just how common this is and it really isn't anything you have done.
Hearing that it is common has 2 effects on you. 1 you want to stab the person telling you because you feel like hearing that is "common" takes away the fact that its not common to you. Its happening to you and your world seems to be crumbling so to hear it almost brushed off like that can be painful but on the other hand when your hormones settle hearing can help heal. I think I am almost at the healing side. My miscarriage ended up being traumatic for me because I had never gone into labour with my other 2 children so didn't know what exactly to expect.
I hope this helps and by now you have seen your Dr and have some answers. xo Good luckxo