Our guests are paying for their own meal at our wedding. It is under $50 not including drinks which we will pay for. There is also no one invited under the age of 13. ALL OF OUR GUESTS are aware of this and are happy to pay. I have also been to weddings where this was the case and had a fabulous time. I think the wishing well idea, etc is pointless as we tried that for our engagement party and ended up with so much useless stuff, like over 100 wine glasses, and no vouchers/ money for stuff we really needed. We also been living together for several years and have children.
Im after some nice phrases or quotes to insert in with the invites to say that in lieu of gifts we would appreciate payment of their meal. I have googled and haven't come up with anything that tickles my fancy.
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Wow paying for your own meal at a wedding? Sorry but I wouldn't go. I understand weddings are expensive - I just had mine, so we invited less than 20 people. Small, intimate & we paid!!!
There's always one, she didn't ask for an opinion on paying for their meal she said her guests all know and are fine with it
Although at my wedding everything was paid for by my generous father , I agree weddings aren't just some free party for you with a free meal and a cheap night on the drink they are a celebration of your friends love , all of my friends would have been happy to pay for their meal too, cos they were just honored to be a part of our day, getting free food is just a bonus and a very generous gift from a friend
How about,
Thanks for sharing our special day,
We've had our kids, and set up our home, so blessed in every way.
So may we ask instead of gifts, for your meal may you pay ?
Or just a nicely written paragraph without rhyming.
I was thinking about weddings last night after reading this. I think we could learn a lot from our grandparents and great grandparents weddings and even some of our parents. They looked very little like the weddings of today (and not just in fashion). People understood what they were about, love and wishing someone well, not an expensive free meal and how much you spend on a gift!
So true! My parents got married at a courthouse with close family and threw a back yard BBQ! I just said vows on the beach and spent a few grand on food and alcohol and threw a massive party! My dress was 250 and everyone commented how gorgeous it was it cost 5800 grand and my dad gave us 20000 for it, we took a looooooong honeymoon! And our gifts were a charity donation :) the day was perfect and everyone still talks about it!!!!! My sisters wedding on the other hand cost 50000!!!!! 20g from mum and dad 20 from her in laws and 10 themselves ... Was also unforgettable though:)
I just read the one below , that's nicely worded ... All we ask is for your gift may you pay? Instead of instead of gifts... :) #teamwork :p
We are doing the same
As the op and if any of our friends had an issue, I would be happy for them not to come. I would never go to a wedding just to get a “free meal”. We will be paying for drinks at our wedding though...
We are doing the same
As the op and if any of our friends had an issue, I would be happy for them not to come. I would never go to a wedding just to get a “free meal”. We will be paying for drinks at our wedding though...
I just wanted to say I've been to a variety of weddings from one where I've paid for my own meal, to ones where it was pot luck (took a plate of food). Going to a wedding is not about a free feed but about celebrating with friends and family. I can't think of a cool phrase but as your guests seem to know anyway it doesn't need to be super clever.
What about -
Today is our wedding,
Our very special day.
The only gift that we ask,
Is for your meal may you pay?
Drinks will be provided,
For our family & friends,
Together we celebrate,
Please come if you can.
I've been to a few weddings where we have paid for our own meal and I'm more then happy to do that. It's about being there to help celebrate the love of two people.
We had - Please no gifts are your presence is present enough.
We paid for meals so have no idea how o word that part but google it I'm sure you will find lots of options.
Congratulations and have a wonderful wedding.