I am mentally in a really dark place right now. I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with my hubby and I's 4th child. The pregnancy has been smooth and things were ok up until the week of valentines day when hubby confessed that he no longer desires me or enjoys being around me at all. From then on things have just been near excruciating to manage.
At that point hubby was ready to leave me and asked me to leave our home. We somehow worked things through to staying together but I have since found out that all of my in laws have been told near constantly by hubby that I have been difficult to deal with and a number of other things that has led to me being outcast. Hubby is now at the point where he says he made a mistake and was just taking me for granted.
I have really taken all of this to heart and feel so isolated and alone. I feel betrayed and almost masked in a sense as none of my in laws mentioned any of this at all and won't even speak to me.
I have so much resentment and anger at how this has all happened and to be honest I feel as though he tricked me into agreeing to try for this baby. I no longer want to celebrate my pregnancy at all.
I know hormones wouldn't be helping me here but what do I do? I have no one to speak to and I am so worried about what sort of life I will be bringing baby into.
The in laws won't even come to the house anymore.
How do I move past my anger and hurt?
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If hubby feels he made a mistake and has taken you for granted HE needs to do the right thing and smooth things over with his family and get them to be a part of your life once more. You are the mother of their nephews/nieces/grand children. Unless you and hubby separate they need to respect you and embrace you as a family member.
Words can not be taken back once spoken but he really needs to clear the air with everyone.
As for your baby, your baby is a part of you. Regardless of who is there to help you you will love that baby. I didn't enjoy my last pregnancy at all, there was too much happening in life and I had bugger all support and about the same level of support since baby 3 & 4 came (twins).
In laws and family alike need to be supportive of you. If they arent, you need to be strong enough to tell yourself they don't matter. Im not strong enough and everyday have a little melt down about it.
Good luck to you IM i hope hubby makes it up to you and i hope his family can see how much of a dick he has been and come back so you can feel complete.
No advice, just big hugs. Try to surround yourself with loving friends and family. You will get through this x
Thank you everyone for your support. Things had started to improve with hubby to some extent but the family is still very hostile and unfortunately I ran into them by chance today and it wasn't an enjoyable experience for me at all. I think they quite enjoyed leading my youngest away and leaving me by myself while they enjoyed his company for a few moments. That just brought back all the resentment towards hubby. We have plans to go to counselling to see if we can fix this. Wish me luck and thank you all again for making me feel not quite so alone.