I'm so pissed off right now. Single mum, 2 kids under 4, been offered a job, 15 hours a week, 3 hours each morning Monday to Friday.
Out of pocket expense for day care is $22 a child a day, job pays $20 an hour. So if you do the math it's just not viable or fair for the kids to be in day care 5 days a week.
Have already used up my JET so can't do that.
Have budged and thought if I had the kids in day care 3 days a week then dad might be able to look after then 2 mornings a week.
Flat out NO. He's not working, building his own house and pays $50 a month child support. Yep, qualified tradie who looks for cash jobs to dodge child support.
When I asked why he said he might get a job and he's a man and it's more important for man to work instead of a woman.
Currently has the kids 2 nights a fortnight and not interested in seeing them any longer than that.
I could just strangle him!
Ok, vent over, just feels very unfair.
Vent: can't take job cause dad won't help look after kids
Vent: can't take job cause dad won't help look after kids
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5 Replies
Yep he's an arse!
Yep not so helpful but who knows.maybe he really does plan om working and doesn't want to jerk you around in a month or so. Sounds like you can't ask him for help so better to plan with someone else.
Have you factored in ccb and ccr. Also look into family day care, private sitters who may be registered for ccr and ccb.
No family day care available in my regional town and I listed the out of pocket expense, so yes, that includes ccb and ccr. No occasional care or half day day care available either and no family.
Only thing I can think of us threaten him with child care reassessment based on his actual income before deduction to force him to help out. But don't want to cause anymore problems with his bad attitude.
It's unfair because hes a parent but you can't force him.to have them. If you're separated it's in his rights not to have them during your time & he might have valid reasons for wanting to keep the lines drawn clearly. But you can't force him.into.it, anyway I wouldn't want someone.looking after my kids if they didn't wnat to, it won't end well.
Look at a babysitter, or different working hours, if it doesn't work, it doesn't work, you have to find something that works for you independently.