Hi there IM's,
I'm sorry for the morbid question... I honestly have no clue who to turn to for advice on this...
I'm having brain surgery in about 6 weeks time. Everyone (including me!) is very positive for a good outcome, but to remain positive in my head, I need to know that everything at home is taken care of should the worst happen... I'm in the process of finalising my divorce, and I share custody of my gorgeous 2 and a half year old boy with my ex. I have talked at length with him about visitation with my current partner, who my son adores, (and my ex gets along fine with) and my family. So I have no concerns at all about the future care of my son.
My question is, should my son be at my funeral in the very unlikely event that was to happen....
On one hand I say absolutely no way! A funeral is no place for a nearly 3 year old. Then I think, but I'm his mum, maybe he should be there? Then I think, but he wouldn't understand, and he won't for a few years yet, so why should he be put through a confusing experience and surrounded by sad people when he wont understand why...
I don't know, maybe it's a silly question, I just can't seem to remove myself enough to answer the question I don't think... Can you girls help me please...?
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I think you are thinking too much about this but he should go to the funeral. It won't damage him to go, kids are far better at coping with this stuff than us adults. He'll be fine and your ex is more than capable of comforting him etc.
Wow what a hard situation, I will be thinking of you! Please let us know your ok!
It must be so hard to think of but I do understand why you are, the risks are always there and your showing your a great mum by making plans.
I would have your son there. At this age he won't understand fully but as he gets older he may resent dad for not letting him be there even though he won't remember just knowing he was there may be a comfort.
I'm so sorry to hear your going through this and will be thinking of you!!