Long lost father.

Hi Imperfect Mums!!

Wow! Where do I start!?!? So I have just come in contact with my real dad, after zero contact for 16 years!! He found my younger sister and I on Facebook and inboxed us the same thing, a simple, "hi, I'm your father I would love to hear from you all and I have never stopped loving you". Along with his mobile number.

My younger sister and I have an older brother whom we rang straight away and told him he has found us.

Now I need to add the when my mother took us three kids into hiding it was for a good reason. We believe he had mental health problems. He had kidnapped us kids. Hit my brother Punched my mother in the face and many many other things.

So clearly when we left 16years ago it wasn't on a good note. We have messaged him and said a very brief hello and asked a few questions about him and he has asked a few questions about us, which I replied with, "we just need some time to come to terms with everything and we are very nervous and don't really know what to say" he seemed fine with that and also seems very eager to find out more about us and try and get to know us and for us to get to know him.

Our mother is 110% fine with us contacting him and getting to know him, she understandably wants nothing to do with it though.

We are 99% sure this guy is actually our father but we are waiting for Mum to get home from her holiday so we can show her a pic for confirmation.

So im pretty much asking if any of you out there have been through something like this before and what advice you can give as to expectations and just, yeah... Anything? All three of us are pretty keen on getting to know him. It's just so hard to know how to feel, especially after he was once such a danger to us.

Thanks Mummas! ??