Hi wonderful mums
Just found out I was pregnant but roughly only 2weeks pregnant and then lost the lil jellybean I had a few tell me get over it you where only two weeks but my emotions are in overload I guess I just wanted another baby so badly but by the time I realised I was even pregnant I had a miscarriage and this is the first miscarriage I've experienced and just wanted to know do I have that right to be upset it's still a loss as I'm being told I'm being ridiculous as I was only 2weeks and it's not a baby yet :(
Miscarriage
Miscarriage
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I was told that mine wasn't a baby too. I was 12 weeks.
The first thing my mother in law said to me was "why have you put on so much weight?". I explained that it was only 5kg and my hormones were in overdrive due to the loss of a baby. She then asked if it was planned and I said no, she THEN said "oh well, that's why you lost it...we don't have unplanned pregnancies in this family."
Don't let anyone tell you how you should feel or what you should be doing. I was fine for a week afterwards, the ordeal barely hurt me and then POW hormones were going nuts. I wanted to sleep, cry laugh, eat and bathe all at once. I put on weight and then lost it just as fast, but don't be too hard on yourself. Adverts with babies in it made me burst into tears. Just let it happen and let yourself feel all the emotions.
I am A- blood type so I HAD to go and get the required needles for my blood type.
If you aren't sure, go and see a Councillor or doctor.
Big hugs
I want another baby and if I found out I was pregnant and losing the baby I would be upset even if two weeks along.
It may not have been a formed baby yet but now knowing who your little jelly bean might have become is something you are entitled to feel upset about.
The same happened to me a few years ago. I'd known I was pregnant for 5 days. On the day I was booked for bloods I started bleeding. My doctor was very kind when he told me that I was losing my baby. He said that if I wasn't so in tune with my body I would have just passed it off as a heavy period due to it being late. He even patted me on the knee and said that it was ok for me to be upset.
You are allowed to be sad, angry, depressed etc. It's all part of the process. Give yourself time to heal and ignore those who tell you to 'get over it'.
I lost a baby at 7 weeks and I remember feeling like my heart had cracked in two.
Its a baby the moment you see those 2 lines on the pregnancy test. You grieve as much as you need lovely xxx
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you get the love and support during this time.
I was almost 5 wks pregnant when I miscarried and had 2 chemical pregnancies ( early stage miscarriages <5 wks)
It doesn't matter how early into the pregnancy you where it was your baby you have every right to be upset. Don't let anyone tell you other wise. I would of hit the roof if someone told me it didn't matter. Best of luck with your healing. I sought out help from a counselor and got a tattoo in memory of my angel baby.
You are most certainly allowed to grief i have had three miscarriages and they have all been horrible. 1 week 2 weeks or 22 weeks it doesnt matter you have lost something that is apart of you. Xoxo