This is more of an observation/opinion that's been bugging me for ages rather than a question. I'd like to hear others opinions.
Does anyone else feel that since terms such as gender fluidity, gender identity, pansexuality etc have been around that it seems to be the 'in' thing to be one of those things? Don't get me wrong, my teenage daughter likes both boys and girls and I have absolutely no issue with it.
I guess what I'm saying is why, as a society, do we have to have a label for absolutely everything? I'm firmly of the opinion that your preferences don't matter, all that matters is that you're a decent person. I'm not fussed if you were born male but identify as female or vice versa.
How many kids these days feel left out because they aren't having gender identity issues or are struggling with their sexuality. It's no longer the norm to be 'normal'.
Is it because we're more aware of it? Is it because there are genuinely more people out there who go through these struggles? Or are we far too concerned with coming up with a name for every little difference humans have? 30 years ago if you weren't 'normal' you were just considered a bit odd, but now we dig around to find a name for that oddity (for lack of a better expression).
Why do we need to have all these debates in regards to boys playing with blue things and trucks/cars/trains and girls playing with pink teddies/dolls/horses? Why do we put so much importance on these things? As long as your child is happy they should be allowed to play with whatever they like.
And why must we have all these issues with toilets? Why not just break them up into adults and children's instead of men's and women's and gender fluid or conflicted or trans? After all we are all human..
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although I don't particularly care what anyone else labels themselves as, I think it's great that the conversation is being had, and of course it's going to look like it's become the 'in' thing because people finally can be out and open rather than hiding.
Well said.
I judge people on their character, ie are you a nice person, honest, trustworthy or are you an asshole.
I couldn't give two hoots on your sexuality or gender, you are what you are.
Who am I to judge anyone?
You do what makes you happy and we'll be friends if you have similar values / lifestyle/ beliefs to me. If you don't I'll wish you luck and find someone else to hang out with
I do disagree with how the world treats people who aren't your 'normal male/female couple, or are transsexual, gender fluid etc'
I do understand the need to fight for change but am honestly gobsmacked it's even a conversation, it should just be accepted as normal and legislated as such and we can all move on from this fight
Well In a very small way yes, in some cases it can just be the "in" thing to be confused about your identity. For example when I was going through high school it was the in thing for a girl to be bi so ofcourse parties were filled with girls making out with each other (always in front of guys never usually alone unless for it to be later bragged about). But no I don't think so many people are coming out as confused or transgender or bisexual just because we're creating so many labels. That's a really ignorant statement I'm sorry. I do appreciate you been curious about it all but I think if you actually go out and meet these people you'll see how real they are, it's something they were born struggling with not something society has made them by creating a label. It's still something kids are bullied for, loose jobs for, bashed for, killed over, commit suicide over. It's something that takes a lot of guts to come out and even speak to 1 friend or family member over. I think that it was a lot more common "back in the day", but no one felt they could express themselves.
I wouldn't call myself ignorant. I do in fact have friends in pretty much every single one of these groups. My ex partner is bisexual, his best friend is transgender, his partner for a while was struggling with his/her identity. I know men who were born women and vice versa. All of these people went through hell to get where they are today. I guess my question was more along the lines of are we more aware of it now because it's splashed through the media (Caitlin Jenner) and it's 'cool' or are we more aware because there are genuinely more people comfortable about being open with their struggle.