My daughter is 13. I just want to scream. What the hell?!?!?! I was informed by the school, she told one of her teachers that she was asked for nudes by a man she didn't know and he was sending pics of himself to her. (PS: she is not allowed on social media and there has been a ban on it at home, but the cheeky bugger used friends devices instead)
I made her give me her password to social media, I read the messages and I am completely mortified! (Thank god here were no photos of her on there! Plenty of other stuff ... but ..... they have been using snap chat and skype! OMG!!) I took her ass into a police station yesterday. The officer was so firm with her yet the way she delivered it was awesome, I wanted to high five her. I even was scared at one point! She was on the verge of tears. I do hope this message has got through to her but I am just at a loss of what I do going forward! She's once again banned! My parents know the full story now so they will not be letting her touch their phones either. Arghhhhhhhhhh KIDS!!!!
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I'd also be talking to her friends parents. They need to know what happened and I find it highly unlikely her friends were not encouraging her etc and were possibly involved in some way!
We also had a device/computer in family spaces only rule at that age. It's much harder to Skype and FaceTime inappropriate things sitting in the lounge room for everyone to see!
This is what I was going to say. Even ask the teacher that caught her to talk or send a note home to her friends families
13 and sexting a man, I'd be having the so called man charged, regardless of how much she thought that she was in control she is not responsible for her actions he is, it's great you have banned her from social media, it's great you took her to the police, make sure the lines of communication are open between you both, prehaps some controlling also.
Why ban her again? She got around it the first time.... if she is old enough to know how to use it and want it. Why not allow it with extreme supervision, rules and good communication? Rather then excluding it. As a kid, you always want something you can't have. Giving it to her will take away the thrill of getting caught as well.