OK a moral question. My 16 year old daughter came out as gay earlier this year. I don't have a problem with this at all. She has been seeing a girl for about 3 months. Again, no problem. My issue is that when they want to have sleep overs, my daughter thinks them sharing a bed is no issue. If it were a guy there would be no way I would want them in the same bed so I can't see why I should feel any different because it's a girl. She is only 16!
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Yep same rules apply thats a sexual partner.
Your daughter is at a legal age to be sexually active. I would be researching safe sex for female couples discussing said practices. Also if this was my child (when my kids get to this age they will) I would allow them to have sleep overs in the same room. I would honestly rather know my kids female or male are safe at home practicing safe sex rather than doing it in any random spot. We are very open about relationships in our house. When my kids get to the dating age their will be a bowl of condoms free to use.
The way I see it:
They are probably already sexually active, would you prefer her to explore her sexuallity in the safety of her own bed OR in the school toilets, in a playground, behind the bus shelter or a secluded alley way, hell even ducking into the bushes? I know that sounds ludicrous but when I was a teenager that's where kids would go to get away from their disapproving parents!
I know nobody really likes to think of their babies having sex but at some point they're all going to do it.
There does have to be boundaries of course (especially if you have younger children in the home) but I think there's room for compromise here.
Ps. Good on you for being so supportive too! You and your daughter must have a great relationship that you can be so open with each other.
At least she won't be getting pregnant đ but like any sexual relationship you can't stop it as it's likely already started. As long as they are both legal let them be.
If she wants to have sex she will. Provide her a safe place to do so! Be accepting that she wants to explore and let her do her thing in a comfortable place. She's already taken a huge step so obviously feels safe around you.
There's nothing worse than sneaking around to have it, I had to do it with my boyfriend and it wasn't nice and I felt uncomfortable more times than not!!
Most people have had sex by 16 I think. 16 is legal to have sex. Better her doing it at home than out in public and possibly getting caught by cops.
I lost my virginity at 16 and I think itâs about the age most girlfriends/boyfriends start having sleep overs in the same bed. I donât think sheâs too young to be sleeping with her.
However, I would be taking her to the Dr and possibly getting a pap-test or STI check and keeping up to date with those. She wonât fall pregnant but she can still catch diseases.
My daughter is gay too, she is now 17. She lives with her girlfriend so i have no say whether she sleeps n the same bed or not, but if I did have a say I wouldn't care to be honest. I think seperate beds is a bit outdated really, we all know they're going to do it anyway. My son has been allowed to have his girlfriend sleepover and vice versa since they were 15. Young I know, but again they will be doing it anyway so best be in the safety of their homes rather than some back alley somewhere.
I moved out of home at 16 and in with my then boyfriend who I went on to be with for almost 8 years. I'd just let her have her girlfriend stay over in the same room and make sure she's educated on safe sex
If this were my home they would not be sharing a bed. Gay or straight, if you're in a relationship that young they can stay over and come over whenever they want but sleeping in separate beds.
Same rules apply for every sexual partner IMO.
Just cos she can't get pregnant, it doesn't mean that it's safe.
However, even if you keep them in separate rooms, they'll still do what they want as long as they wake up in the correct place. I know I did when I was younger
Bit prudish outdated view perhaps? But ultimately itâs your house, your rules. Did you make a rule? Did she and any of your other kids know your rules?
We need to be having these conversations earlier, so everyone knows where they stand, if you have these absolute rules that is.
Sex is natural and normal. Why the big stigma about ânot under my roofâ ffs? Is there no-one else having sex in the household? You lock the door so kids or whoever donât interrupt donât you?