Hi
I had a stillbirth last year due to UCA (Umbilical Cord Accident)
Yesterday I found out I'm pregnant and I'm still in shock!
I am so so scared that history will repeat itself and I know I'll be holding my breath all the way through this pregnancy and waiting for something bad to happen.
I don't want to plan ahead because I'm just too scared it will end like my last pregnancy.
I guess I am looking to other Mummy's who have been through this and had a happy ending.
Were you 'high risk' and is there any advice you could give me for the months ahead?
Thanks IM's xx
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Hi, im so sorry for your loss xx
There is a fb group called 'bears of hope' and i think there is a rainbow babies page where you can connect with other mothers and ask lots of questions.
I too lost a baby, my son, and i have since gone on to have 2 more children. The first pregnancy after my son died i was very very scared, i told my gp about my fears and i was given extra tests and ultrasounds (including a 3D which was only a new thing at the time) and had more check ups to ease my fears. As i got closer to my due date the midwives at the local hospital told me to go there anytime and they would check babys heartbeat for me as they knew i was anxious.
So my advice to you is to upfront and honest with your doctor or anyone else so they can help you the best they can. I think you can also now buy a doppler to hear babys heart at home, although i dont know how much they are, as that would help to put your mind at rest.
Congratutions to you and i wish you all the best.
Yep been exactly where you are right now. Best advice I was given was just take it one day at a time. It's very hard at first but trust me it does get easier!!!
I was high risk with my little rainbow and stood my ground with all medical staff as to what I wanted (tests and stuff)
I went into the pregnancy with about 4 months of research under my belt and went in with my eyes wide open.
Congratulations and I hope all goes well you deserve to be a mother to an earthy child aswell xoxoxo