Hi sisterhood, am wondering if there is any women out there who have had an ectopic pregnancy? It's been two weeks since losing my "long awaited angel" to this ectopic. I lost my left tube. I'm not coping well and have lost my desire to smile, I have always been a happy positive person but now, since losing my pregnancy, it is all I think about. I cant pretend I am ok, because I am not. I am home by myself now since I've taken time off work, hubby goes to work and son goes to kindy. I wish i knew someone who lived in my area who has been through this, perhaps we could share our grief together and get therapy through it. I have no friends here as I'm sorta new to this town. My hubby is great but he is like most men and doesn't like to talk about his grief's.. I feel alone and need to have human contact with someone who has been through this too. We have been trying for a while since our son, finally happened but didn't end well... I really wanted this baby.. I feel so heart broken but cant talk to anyone like family as they don't understand it unlike someone who already has been through it. Please if you live in my area, I would love to get in contact.
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I am so sorry for your loss ?What area do u live in?
Thank you... I live in far north Queensland
I have been through it. I had an ectopic pregnancy in my left fallopian tube which also ruptured and had to be removed. Was a very upsetting time for me but it gets easier. I live in Mackay
Thanks for your comment :) I too had my left removed but glad mine didn't rupture, just damaged.. I really hope it does get easier..i think the only way to be happy again is to TTC again and be pregnant.. Aww wished you lived closer I'm further up :( hope you are doing ok x
Hey chick. I live in Cape York. Is that too far north? I lost my baby earlier this yr. It was our last hope and last chance. It took months to deal with it. My baby would have been born in November. I greaved in Nov as well but not as much as I thought I would so just letting you know it DOES get easier even though right now you probably want to stab the next person who tells you this.
I have friends who have had ectopic pregnancies and still have moved on to normal births. 1 with the help of ivf. This phase is horrible and depressing but you will come out of it. Give yourself a few months to get your head right. Your hormones are still craving the baby and making your life hell.
My advise is to take the time wach day to see 1 thing in your life that is great or fine. Look at your husband and find a good quality or thing he did or your son. See what they do and smile at least once a day and taken enjoyment from that one thing. Next month smile twice a day. It will get easier xo
Thank you so much for your comment. Sorry this is a really late reply, I totally forgot about it... Sorry to hear and sorry for your loss also hun.. Xx thank you for your words of care and encouragement..i do hope it does get better and easier.. I feel the only way to be happy again is to have another baby that I've always wanted.. Aww unfortunately yes, cape York is way far north..im in Cairns :( ill put your advice into practice :) thank you xx
Im not near you so im no good with the contact but what I can say is its only been 2 weeks so what your feeling is normal. You have lost a little life that you were growing and that you wanted and when it gets ripped away from you its traumatic. Its sad and its terrifyingly lonely. You dont have to pretend to be okay because what happened isnt okay. Its so hard to explain to anyone that hasnt lost a baby how it feels or how you feel. It will get easier but you wont ever forget. Im sorry for your loss. Let yourself feel what you feel and it should help your recovery. Talk to your gp and organise some counselling or see if there is any groups they can put you onto. Also facebook groups in your area and if there isnt one start one up :)
Thank you for stopping by and leaving me such beautiful words of encouragement :) sorry its such a late reply, I totally forgot about it.. Even if you are not close by, your words of care have put a smile to my face. Thank you. Xx