So I'm going to be very blunt but to honest that is the reality at the moment. Today I had a pregnancy Termination (abortion) I was 6 weeks along. Although leading up to today has been very emotionally hard I feel so relieved at this point in time and feeling back to my old self. My husband and I have two children so we had many reasons for out decision which is totally irrelevant as it's such a personal choice no one needs to know your reasons. I am extremely appalled at the fact when we arrived at the clinic there was literally a gentleman in his 60's out the front protesting! As if making this decision isn't hard enough for the poor women that they have to see this on their way to their appointment. I had a good chat with the doctor before my procedure and the amount of terminations that happen every day in Australia is phenomenal. So why is it such a taboo subject for people to talk about?? I really just hope that one day it will be recognised and talked about and not such a taboo thing. Thinking of all you beautiful ladies who had to go through this. Xx
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Nothing to say but thankyou for sharing.
I too have 2 kids and we don't want any more.
Thank you for posting I also had a termination 2 years ago and had 2 children already. It was such a difficult time emotionally but mentally I was not able to have another baby at that stage and we had also used protection. I have been made to feel so guilty by certain people for the decision we made but it goes back to if you haven't waljed on another's shoes you shouldn't pass judgement! I won't lie I found it emotionally difficult after the termination but in my heart know I made the right choice for my myself and most importantly my family, big hugs Mumma xxxx
If I found out I was pregnant today I would have a termination. No doubt in my mind. So while I do everything in my power to make sure I don't get pregnant I'm not naive enough to believe that there is such a thing as 100% effective birth control and that accidents don't happen. I am in absolutely no position to raise another child at this time.
I'm sorry you were confronted by that man.
I'm pro choice but i also respect everyone's decisions. My husband has had the snip but i still worry i.may fall pregnant. I time my ovulation and will not have sex without a condom for a week leading up/during and after ovulation. My biggest fear is falling pregnant because i know i couldn't go through another high risk pregnancy leading to premature birth, a possible repeat of pnd that took me years of hard work to overcome and put an emense strain on my family and small children. I literally wanted to end my life. I could not do that to my family again. They need a happy healthy mother present. For these reasons i know i couldn't go through another pregnancy again but i feel I have done everything in my power to prevent this from happening. I would hate to ever have to make that decision so i take my hats off to those ladies that have had to.
No advice but lots of love to you. Be strong in your choice and what's best for you and your family! Whilst others may have strong feelings about your choice, it is just that. A choice and all yours.
I just had one at 8 weeks. Currently waiting for my follow up appointment with my doctor.
I was lucky there weren't any protesters. I probably would have told them where to go.
I had fertility issues and had assistance for my twins. It was an easy decision for me & my husband, as we had spoken about what would we do if we did get pregnant again.
It shouldn't be taboo. I know 3 close friends who have had them and all for different reasons.
It's hard to talk about fertility isssues as well as if to have an abortion. We should be there to support each other not judge.
I grieve after mine. I have no one to talk about it and I felt forced at the time. There is no support for anyone who regrets abortion and I've been made to feel by others that since it was my choice I have no right to feel bad...
Hi to everyone, I highly appreciate all your comments, thoughts and love. I have taken the time tonight to go through absolutely every comment and comments on those
Comments. So I will say this, posting this I did not expect I would get so many people voicing their beliefs which I am totally for. But obviously I did realise and I do understand and 100% gratify everyone's feelings. You all need to understand that there is obvious missing info in my piece about reasons and life etc which I still feel I don't need to explain. I am well aware of fertility issues, having personal issues myself. Contraception yes. I am very appreciative to live in this country where we can make these sort of decisions. Of course it hurts me every day to feel and know I have "killed" a baby! I find it utterly stupid and very incentive that anyone commenting about that thinks we feel nothing. I really pray any of you whom say I would never abort do not ever have to face this situation as only 6 month ago that was me to T!!!!! I have always been pro choice but believed I could never go through a termination until now. Life throws you curve balls and although we do all we can to prevent these things, unfortunately this shit happens. Hubby and our two kiddies will be planting a small tree this weekend in memory of our lost one. Thank you everyone for your kind words and I've spoken to qld police they are currently in the process of changing the legislation with this certain Old man out the front of this clinic I went to. Thank you again. Much love xx