I had a teenager I know disclose sexual assault to me. I spoke to her about it and than took her to her mum and told her together.
Police are involved.
But turns out a friends parents knew and did nothing. And a couple of teenagers knew. An adult step sister knew.
Not one of the people that new told or encouraged her to see her mum. Parents are separated.
The person was 18 and it first happened 2 days after the child turned 14.
So it was not consensual at first and than at times she just agreed because she didn’t know what to do and even tho she would say no it would still happen.
Anyway I don’t want to disclose everything but things are being done for her.
She has tried to overdose previously twice (bestfriend let this out when everything came out)
What I want to know is what can I do to help her? She had not told the entire situation to everyone that knew but she told me everything and I supported her in going to her mum.
She obviously trusts me but I don’t know how to help her. She looks so so sad and withdrawn. I’ve had her because I can with my working situation and her mum needs to work still so she asked if I could have her so she isn’t left alone anywhere.
She’s not going to school atm either.
I’m actually so lost and not sure what to do. I’ve chatted to her in a friend way and stuff and just chilled with her. I actually made her laugh today!
Anyone have any advice on things that could help her? I’ve never been in a situation where I’ve needed to support someone like this.
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Be passive. Be present. Let her drive how much she talks or doesn’t. I would encourage you to support her to seek formal counselling.
I’m not sure it helps to point out anyone else’s failings. While I may not agree with their actions - we can’t change them either.
I know if I found out about any adult who knew, and said nothing they'd be befriending my fist.
Please take her to a dr and get a referral to a psychologist. Go with her to the psych. She obviously trusts you so keep that open supportive relationship with her. That is important than she believes in someone. You are her safety and comfort. It’s time for outside help together. you are doing amazing with her. Don’t lose that bond. She needs you.