We've been trying to conceive for 2 years now. In that time I've had 2 miscarriages. The most recent was earlier this year. If all had gone well I'd be heavily pregnant now and ready to pop. Unfortunately another missed misccariage and a couple of hospital stays as a result, have meant I am thinking about what could have been rather than getting my hospital bag ready.
I'm really struggling with this. Trying to conceive is stressful enough. Add 2 missed misccariage to the mix and I'm on the verge of a breakdown. All I ever wanted was to be a mum and have a big family. I do have an amazing little boy who I am so so grateful for. But the desire to give him a sibling is so intense that this pain is unbearable.
Any suggestions on how to get through? Support services? Counsellor recommendations?
Pls don't tell me everything will be ok, to be strong, not to stress and all these types of things. I really don't need to hear that any more. Thanks in advance.
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It's such a long hard road. I have been exactly where you are. I had a little boy and then suffered 4 consecutive losses, the last one at 18 weeks. It took 3 years for us to finally get there.
I handled it by taking control. I relentlessly researched obstetricians, and eventually found a new specialist (my previous specialist had a ridiculously large ego and refused to admit that my situation was over his head) who handled high risk pregnancies. I found a grief counsellor who specialised in neonatal loss and I saw her once a fortnight, I can thoroughly recommend doing that.
Take the control back, that's my only advice. I now have 3 children. Our second boy who that specialist helped us have, and since fell pregnant again unexpectedly (never dreamt that would happen) and have a little girl who is almost 2.
Trying to work out how you can get in touch with me if you want to, not sure how all this works. Maybe just reply to my comment if you want to and we can go from there.
Xxxx
Thanks so much. I really think talking to someone will help. How did you find the counsellor? I'd like to talk to someone who specialises.
Oh hunni, I'm so sorry to hear this... I just want to give you a huge hug.
Similar happened to me... I lost bubby who was due on my dads birthday which was just last week... its still hard all these years on. Counseling helps, but its easy for me to say as I have two other little munchkins to pour my efforts into.
Sending you lots of love xo