Hi all, I need some advice. My 12 yr old niece and her stepfather recently got caught sending each some rather questionable things over Facebook chat (she doesnt have a phone) and her faceboook was monitored by me as she has alwsys checked it on my iPad and leaves it logged on. Some of the things said were odd things like he has special dreams he can't tell her about, he always refers to her as his special girl with lots of xoxox and mwa
and messages like keep calm daddy loves his little
girl, there was a picture of my nieces bakside that he took and a messages saying something abiut if shes a good girl for mummy he will give her a special surprise, anyway we went to the police and apart from having a chat with him about the appropriate way to talk to a child they didnt do much. My nieces mum has stopped her from having any sleepovers with him anymore but there is still unsupervised day contact. Ok so yesterday I checked her messages on my iPad to see whats been happening and the conversation between her
and her father has been deleted. Does this strike anyone as odd and needs further looking into again. We are at a loss as to what to do as the
police wont help as there isnt enough evidence we have spoke to my niece and she swears nothing
is or was going on but I dont feel so sure. The last thing I will add is my nieces mum Confided in me not long ago that when she was with this man he asked her to call him daddy while they were having sex. Pls help desperate to make sure my niece is safe.
Niece might be getting sexually assaulted or groomed. Pls help
Niece might be getting sexually assaulted or groomed. Pls help
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Is this her father or step dad? Sounds like mum has broken up with him, if it's stepdad then why is she still seeing him and being left with no other adults during the day??
I understand some people step up and are awesome step parents and become real parents and contact can't and shouldn't be cut after a divorce / break up but it doesn't sound like this is the case especially if the police have already been involved
Why is the mother allowing unsupervised day visits? Yeah she might be being groomed and the police can't stop something that MIGHT happen. It is up to the mother to step up and stop the unsupervised contact!
If shes been groomed then she will deny everything to protect him. I would be pushing to cut all contact. Mum needs to step up and say enough is enough. If his only the step dad then he doesnt legally have rights for visitation anyway.
Id also be getting her off Facebook and social media. There is a good reason why there are age restrictions on Facebook. 12 year olds don't need Facebook. My friends kids have just gotten Facebook accounts and they are 14 and 15. There is a huge difference maturity wise in just a few years.
The mum should be cutting ALL contact. He is the step father he wouldn't have legal rights (unless he adopted her).
Did you screen shot all the messages? Did the police make a report of the messages and resulting conversation?
Maybe take your neice to a child psychologist and they can talk to her and see if your neice says anythjng to them or if they pick up on the grooming signs from her.