My little sister needs help. She has just turned 15 and is on her way down hill, my dad who is her step dad took her and her sister on 5 years ago and loves them very much. Her own dad frankly is an emotionally/physical narcisstic abuser that they rarely hear from only really to try and get info on the new married couple. He is an ass and he doesn't pay maintenance and frankly has done despicable things in the past. She keeps in contact only to get money we think but he still gives nothing back in anyway unless it suits him.
She has started smoking and smoking pot, lying and being abusive. She has her snap chat and Facebook tracked and has had her phone smashed numerous times. They have tried talking with her, getting to her level but in the end she seems hell bent on following these people into a life of what she thinks is "cool and fun". Some of the other parents have allowed it in their own homes also and she is being contacted about drugs which are being circulated in the school and also about very sexual deeds. They have overstepped and contact these people and confronted them and cut her off completely but in true teen style she finds away around it.
At this stage she is not sexually active due to medical reasons but not far off it. The parents have been to the cops and handed over as much evidence as they can about the drugs etc to stop there. They are at their wits end. The love her and are trying to protect her but are at an impasse. They have put her into counselling with someone that specialises in this. Inherently she is not a bad kid as such but is a follower, seems that she is looking for love and acceptance and in the wrong way. I have said I think she needs to be pulled out of school and look into a boarding school or agricultural school where she is taught basic hard working principals etc. Its a worry. I know that this is their issue and not mine but I want to help and find out what you do when its at a catchable stage which I think it is. What is some good advice I can send through. My poor dad and step mum are at a loss and so upset at this that I just want to send through some information or help them in some way.
I have offered to be a confidant for her someone she can talk to but I don't think she would trust that I wouldn't go back to my dad and her mum and say it. I want to offer this to her and say that unless I think she is going to hurt herself or someone else then I would keep what she says private but I don't know if I am over stepping the mark. Any help or advice or any places in WA that would be of help would be great?
Non judgemental comments would be good.
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I am also 20 years older than her with 2 kids of my own. So I am not 19 or anything. Just to clarify.
Umm boarding schools and ag schools still have drugs any school has drugs and if they want them they will get them
I realise this but she needs to move away from the people she is around. Its a big step in my books. I don't think shes a seasoned veteran in it but she is easily led by these people she hangs out with atm.
I don't really have any advice for you but just wanted to say that I think you're a gem! There are so many kids like this & not enough people willing to help them. Goodluck with it all
I starting smoking pot and drinking at 13 experimented with other drugs at 14 i was sexually active at 15 (with one partner whom i am now married to) i was clubbing at 16.
I drank every weekend smoked pot but i was just a normal teenager having fun.
I graduated school with mostly A's am now 32 have little girl a husband own 2 houses and have a great job.
I was a teenager having fun and grew out of it. I was still smoking a bit of pot in my early 20's it hasnt ruined my life and i dont regret any of it.